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Dealing With Loneliness



I don’t know where you stand with loneliness, but it was eating me alive for decades. I was so terrified of loneliness, it literally gave me panic attacks. And I had to structure my life so I wouldn’t have to deal with it.


Avoiding loneliness. Looking back now, it seems so odd. I was scared of a feeling. A feeling. It’s not like anything could happen physically. There was no danger, really. But the raw fear I went through was out of this world!


Ever seen anybody so scared they would claw and scratch and do anything to get away? Like a drowning man in the ocean? That was me, trying to get away from my loneliness.

So when people tell me they’re scared out of their minds about some fear inside, I know what they’re talking about. I understand the gravity of the situation. I also understand how vitally important it is to slay this dragon.


The single most important thing to understand here, is that I was not afraid of my loneliness. I was afraid of my stories about loneliness. I was so afraid of being stuck and trapped in loneliness. And I didn’t realize how imprisoned I already was.


I thought by running away from it, and avoiding any situation that might allow it to come up, that these actions would somehow be enough. I never even thought to look at why I felt lonely in the first place.


Loneliness becomes a problem when you separate from yourself. When you abandon yourself. When you try to run away and avoid yourself.


Loneliness is meant to be an ally, not an enemy.


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3 Things to Remind Yourself of When You’re Feeling Left Out

#2. No, parties won’t give you ‘contacts’

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I’ve never enjoyed parties, but I’ve always forced myself to.


However cheerful or awkward the evening goes, I always wake up the next day mapping up my words, retrieving memories from blurriness that only succeed in conceiving a rueful self-disgust that lasts throughout the day.


Since summer started, along with the sense of ‘normality’ that mass vaccination injected back into our daily lives, so did the sense of feeling left out.


As a bunch of invitations piles up in my DMS, I’m feeling alien, cast out in this reborn social world which, not long ago, I craved desperately.



Here three things to remind yourself of when you’re feeling left out.


#1. Here is better than ‘there,’ wherever that is

Whenever I go for a long time without socializing, a sense of guilt takes hold of my mind’s crevices.


Essayist Susan Sontag described it best in her diaries:

“I don’t feel guilt at being unsociable, though I may sometimes regret it because my loneliness is painful. But when I move into the world, it feels like a moral fall — like seeking love in a whorehouse.”


Why is guilt spread underneath the decisions we make in our social life?

Perhaps the guilt stems from the feeling that life is elsewhere, and if we were there, and not here, all our absences would be filled, our desires satiated.


If somebody just uploaded a picture on Instagram of today’s party that you missed or weren’t even invited to begin with, think that your cozy nook, that is here, is better than there. Prioritize spaces where you feel at ease, for that’s when life can truly be lived.


#2. No, parties won’t give you ‘contacts’

For a long time, I had this ongoing capitalistic voice in my mind that kept urging me to go to parties because, according to it, “that’s how contacts are made, and contacts are important for the future;” whatever that means.


As much as I wanted to take off this capitalistic pair of sunglasses — a shade where we see people as card keys for a thing called future — I realize I’m constantly reinforcing it by barricading behind these social interaction badges, i.e., clubs, squads, memberships, fraternities, sororities, workshops, residencies, fellowships, you name it.


What makes them ‘exclusive,’ as the word blatantly boasts, is their ostracizing nature.


The same happens with parties; they are coveted for a reason: we think that by being invited to a party thrown by a selective group, we’ll be able to meet the ‘right’ people, and get the [insert the thing you want] deal that we aspire to get.

But truth is, parties are full of people with altered consciousness, people too high and too drunk to bond beyond a simple night’s blurry memory.


Parties won’t get you contacts.

Hard work and time will. Reunions and get-togethers won’t spontaneously generate ‘contacts’.


#3. Life doesn’t happen on a phone screen

Whenever I see an Instagram story of my master’s program classmates hanging out, I think of Taylor Swift’s all supermodels squad a couple of years ago and realize sometimes selective pods aren’t born to bring together, but to tear apart, to secrete segregation.


What I mean is, we all knew Taylor Swift hanged out with six-foot supermodels, but then it became a publicity tactic, which spread a crooked message online: only pretty girls are rewarded with the privilege of socializing and having a great time. In other words, her squad excluded way more than it included.


And the only reason thousands of girls might have felt like they didn’t belong to any sort of communal gathering is that they saw it online.

It’s so easy to open any social media app, look at a picture or video for two seconds, and mentally create a whole narrative out of it.


Life doesn’t happen on a phone screen.

And if you see a photo dump of the party you missed or weren’t invited to, it doesn’t matter now, for it’s already past tense.


Final thoughts

The communal sense of having lived through a pandemic together is about to crumble and give way to new forms of exclusion.

This other type of loneliness, different from the quarantine loneliness, will cast its spell on some of us, taking hold of our malleable minds and creating the sense that we’re feel left out of life.


But if quarantined left any piece of wisdom on us, we must strive for a type of communion that disregards the statistics each one of us represents, without caring about our prestige, or our lack of it.

But first and foremost, we must remember life is happening here, right now, and you are part of it.


Turn Negative Thoughts Into Positive Ones

How to avoid negative thoughts?


Negative Thoughts


With all the negative events and the hardship of our daily activities, you might be thinking that it is normal to have negative thoughts.


But negative thoughts are not the by-product of bad situations.

They are the direct results of our personal assessment of our experiences.


However, our thinking pattern affects our brain in many ways.


Our brain is plastic.

It means that it is capable of change and environmental adaptation. Also, our brain is a rich and nutritious soil that whatever you put in it will grow.


Both negative and positive thoughts have a direct impact on the brain. If you negatively interpret your experiences, then you are cultivating negative thoughts.


Unfortunately, negative thoughts can negatively affect your overall being. It does not only impair you psychologically but also physically.


Can we develop positive thoughts?


Dr. Richard J. Davidson, a neuroscientist says yes. Both he and his colleagues found in their study that with ample training, positivity can be achieved.


In his report in the National Institute of Health in 2015, Dr. Davidson said:


  "The results suggest that taking time to learn skills to self-generate positive emotions can help us become healthier, more social, more resilient versions of ourselves."


Thus learning how to be positive is a skill. It can be learned by anybody. But how can we train our mind and fill it with positive thoughts?


Most of the experts suggest seven common things to do to be happy.


Here are the quick tips:


1. Do good things to others.


Doing good things to others have two benefits.

First, you help others to overcome something.

Second, it makes you happier.

Doing good thing can be as simple as helping an old man crossing the street.

Or, offering your seat to a pregnant woman on the bus.

The thing is, a simple act of help makes you feel better.


2. Appreciate simple things.


Most people find it hard to stay happy because they focus on the negative side of their experience. They forget that their world does not only revolve around few negative things.


If you want to be happy, spend time appreciating simple things around you. It could be a beautiful sunrise, a bird, or a pet.

These things have a significant impact on your well-being.


3. Develop a strong social relationship.


Your social interaction can do so much for your happiness.

Widen your world by making new acquaintances.

The better your social connection, the happier you’ll become.

And happiness, not negative thoughts, makes you healthier and allows you to enjoy a longer life.


4. Have an attainable goal.


Be realistic in your goals.

People who have impossible goals often end up in frustration and stress. Furthermore, forget about perfection.

The more you strive to be perfect, the more you drag yourself from the reality.

Because there’s no perfection. It only exists in the mind, not in reality.


5. Develop new skill.


Don'€™t be stagnant.

Learn something new.

Even simple things.

It could be a sport, a hobby, or something that can boost your self-confidence.

Anything that improves yourself, will be helpful to make you feel better.


6. Self-acceptance.


You are not perfect. And there’s nothing to feel ashamed about it.

In fact, it is healthy. Imperfection is the very essence of being human.

Instead of hating your own mistakes, strive to accept them.

Accept the reality that you have flaws.

People who donate accept who they are, accumulate negative thoughts and hatred inside.

Ultimately, they lose the opportunity to appreciate the real meaning of their life.


7. Develop resilience.


Negative thoughts cannot do any good to you.

Resilience does.

Do not complain about life.

Instead, find ways to turn negative events into positive ones.

Champions have this habit.

They always make their failures a motivation to pursue their dreams.

You can do it too by being resilient.


Do not retreat.

Always get back up when you fall.


20 Things to Remember When Rejection Hurts

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20 Things to Remember When Rejection Hurts


Be OK with walking away. Rejection teaches you how to reject what’s not right for you.


As you look back on your life, you will realize that many of the times you thought you were being rejected by someone or from something you wanted, you were in fact being redirected to someone or something you needed.


Seeing this when you’re in the midst of feeling rejected, however, is quite tough. I know because I’ve been there.


As soon as someone critiques, criticizes, and pushes you away – as soon as you are rejected—you find yourself thinking, “Well, that proves once again that I’m not worthy.” What you need to realize is, the other person or situation is not worthy of you and your particular journey.


Rejection is necessary medicine; it teaches you how to reject relationships and opportunities that aren’t going to work, so that you can find the right ones that will.

It doesn’t mean you aren’t good enough; it just means someone else failed to notice what you have to offer. Which means you now have more time to improve yourself and explore your options.


Will you be bitter for a moment?



Of course—you’re human.

There isn’t a soul on this planet that doesn’t feel a small fraction of their heart break at the realization of rejection.

For a short time afterward, you will ask yourself every question you can think of:

  • What did I do wrong?
  • Why didn’t they care about me?
  • How come?

But then you have to let your emotions fuel you in a positive way!

This is the important part.

Let your feelings of rejection drive you, feed you, and inspire one heck of a powerful opening to the next chapter of your story.


Honestly, if you constantly feel like someone is not treating you with respect, check your price tag.


Perhaps you’ve subconsciously marked yourself down.

Because it’s you who tells others what you’re worth by showing them what you’re willing to accept for your time and attention.

So get off the clearance rack.

And I mean right NOW!

If you don’t value and respect yourself, wholeheartedly, no one else will either.

I know it’s hard to accept, but think about it…


All too often we let the rejections of our past dictate every move we make thereafter.

We literally do not know ourselves to be any better than what some intolerant person or shallow circumstance once told us was true.


It’s time to realize this and squash the subconscious idea that you don’t deserve any better. It’s time to remind yourself that…

  1. The person you liked, loved or respected in the past, who treated you like dirt again and again, has nothing intellectually or spiritually to offer you in the present moment, but headaches and heartache.
  2. One of the most rewarding and important moments in life is when you finally find the courage to let go of what you can’t change, like someone else’s behavior or decisions.
  3. Life and God both have greater plans for you that don’t involve crying at night or believing that you’re broken.
  4. The harsh truth is, sometimes you have to get knocked down lower than you have ever been to stand up taller and emotionally stronger than you ever were before.
  5. It’s not the end of the world—it’s never the end of the world – and yet rejection can make the loss of someone or something you weren’t even that crazy about feel gut-wrenching and world-ending.
  6. Sometimes people don’t notice the things we do for them until we stop doing them. And sometimes the more chances you give, the more respect you lose. Enough is enough. Never let a person get comfortable with disrespecting you. You deserve better. You deserve to be with someone who makes you smile, someone who doesn’t take you for granted, someone who won’t leave you hanging.
  7. Some chapters in our lives have to close without closure. There’s no point in losing yourself by trying to fix what’s meant to stay broken.
  8. Take a deep breath. Inner peace begins the moment you decide not to let another person or event control your emotions.
  9. You really can’t take things other people say about you too personally. What they think and say is a reflection of them, not of you.
  10. Those with the strength to succeed in the long run are the ones who build themselves up with the bricks others have thrown at them.
  11. Let your scars remind you that the damage someone has inflicted on you has left you stronger, smarter, and more resilient.
  12. When you lose someone or something, don’t think of it as a loss, but as a gift that lightens your load so that you can better travel the path meant for you.
  13. You will never miss out on what is meant for you, even if it has to come to you in a roundabout way. Stay focused. Be positive.
  14. Rejections and naysayers aren’t that important in the grand scheme of things; so don’t let them conquer your mind. Step forward! Seriously, most of us do not understand how much potential we have – we limit our aspirations to the level someone else told us was possible.
  15. Too many people overvalue what they are not and undervalue what they are. Don’t be one of them. Ultimately, you are who you are when nobody’s watching. Know this! And dare to be yourself, however awkward, different or odd that self may prove to be to someone else.
  16. Comparing yourself with others, or other people’s perceptions, only undermines your worth, your education, and your own inner wisdom. No one can handle your present situation better than you.
  17. The more we fill our lives with genuine passion and purpose, the less time and energy we waste looking for approval from everyone else.
  18. You can use your struggles, frustrations, and rejections to motivate you rather than annoy you. You are in control of the way you look at life.
  19. Sometimes transitions in life mean something even better is coming your way, so embrace them and don’t be afraid to let go.
  20. Right now is a new beginning. The possibilities ahead are endless. Be strong enough to let go, wise enough to move forward, diligent enough to work hard, and patient enough to wait for what you deserve.


All details aside, you don’t need anyone’s constant affection or approval in order to be good enough in this world.

When someone rejects or abandons or judges you, it isn’t actually about you.

It’s about them and their own insecurities, limitations, and needs.

So you don’t have to internalize any of it! Your worth isn’t contingent on other people’s acceptance of you.

You’re allowed to be yourself.

You’re allowed to voice your thoughts and feelings.

You’re allowed to assert your needs.

You’re allowed to hold on to the truth that who you are is more than enough.

And you’re allowed to let go of anyone in your life who endlessly makes you feel otherwise.


Sometimes we need to be reminded to actually practice the little habits that allow us to better understand and nurture the right bonds, or let go of the wrong ones.

We need to be reminded to be selective in our battles, too.

Oftentimes peace and love in our lives and relationships are both better than being right.

We simply don’t need to attend every argument we’re invited to, especially when our sense of self-worth is on the line.


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It’s not the lack of the outcome itself, but the fact you broke your agreement with yourself.


Each time you tell yourself you’re going to do something and fall short, you chip away at your soul one little piece at a time.


In isolation, none of these broken agreements are so bad, but cumulatively, they destroy you.

And they destroy you in a way that’s almost worse than total abject destruction.


See, when your life is just genuinely messed up and horrible, you can almost tolerate that more because you can’t do much about it or the odds are so stacked against you that it’s much easier to justify your situation because it’s justifiable.


People in poverty and destitution aren’t leading “lives of quiet desperation” they’re just royally screwed.


Consequently, many people in these situations, take third world countries, for example, find a level of happiness because they are so circumstantially challenged the almost have no choice.


But “normal people” maybe you, who let their souls rot away in the suburbs. I can think of few worse hells. I use the same analogy over and over again — Chinese water torture. Breaking your agreements day after day until you die.


Not good.


You will get no pep talk from me about how easy it is to keep your agreements to yourself. It’s the hardest thing you’ll ever do.

But it’s worth it.

Keep these top ones in mind.

You Won’t Compromise Your Happiness for the Sake of Others


This doesn’t mean “never take anyone’s opinion into account.


It simply means that you should never let the opinion of other people dictate what you’re going to do with your life.


I’ve seen it happen over and over again to so many people. And it often comes from one particular source.


Can you guess?


I can’t tell you how many messages people have sent me about the fact that they want to do something different with their life but won’t do it because they don’t want to let their parents down. Even middle-aged people suffer from this.


Are people like your parents trying to make you unhappy?


But one important truth you must understand about people — often, they can’t help themselves.

You’d think the people that created you would want the best for you.


Actually, they do, but they just have a different definition of the word ‘best’ than you do.


They project dreams and insecurities on you at the same time.

Don’t blame them.

Accept that they’re coming from the only paradigm they know and move forward.

Politely reject their advice. Don’t even say anything. Just don’t follow their directions.


Parents are the overarching example, but there are many others:

  • Spouse — If your spouse doesn’t agree with your dreams, maybe they shouldn’t be your spouse. Not saying this in a callous way, but if your values aren’t aligned, then you will run into problems.
  • Kids — You should sacrifice for your kids, right? Yes, but there are many types of sacrifice. You can sacrifice your happiness to procure resources or you can sacrifice your extra time to build your dream on the side and get the best of both worlds. You know my answer here.
  • The Joneses — You can totally ignore these people. Friends, colleagues, acquaintances, whatever. Again, not that you never take anyone’s opinion into account, but ask yourself, are these people living your life? Do they pay your bills? No? And no again? Well, then you choose what to do with your life, ok?

Here’s the thing about compromising your dreams and failing to put boundaries around your non-negotiable values — nobody will respect or appreciate you for it. You’ll end up with a martyr complex and wonder why everyone isn’t super thankful for your sacrifice.


Counterintuitively, if you put yourself first and set those boundaries, you’ll get the respect because few people have the confidence to do it.


You Will Do The Things You’re Afraid Of


There are few better feelings than courage — being scared yet doing the thing anyway. You experience a type of euphoria you can’t replicate any other way.


I don’t know about you, but fear annoys me.


The fact that I’d ever hold myself back for any reason, over some petty psychological BS, seems so insane to me, but of course, it happens. It happens to me just like it happens to you.

I have limiting beliefs. I have impostor syndrome — I gave an entire talk about it.


Part of me wants to stay in the house forever and live in total comfort, but I just don’t allow myself to be complacent.


I’ve decided that I’m never going to be in my “comfort zone” again.


Does this mean you have to live like me?



Do you have to achieve world domination to be happy?

Absolutely not.


But your soul will atrophy if you don’t exercise it.

And you exercise your soul by being courageous.

Courage takes many forms In general, standing up against your inner critic, the resistance, the beguiling monkey mind, takes courage.

The odds are stacked against you.

Psychological resistance weighs heavy, no way around it. So how do you stand up to it?


My go-to answer is always the same — realize you are going to die. There’s no fear to feel when you’re in the abyss, gone forever.


I always try to think to myself, “If this moment embarrasses me, if I get rejected, if this doesn’t work out, will I ever care 6 months from now? 6 weeks? Hell, even 6 hours?

Probably not.

If it works, however, I’ll always remember it.”

You Will Focus on Gratitude

As much as I talk about ambition, goal setting, productivity, and world domination so to speak, I understand how important it is to have gratitude and develop detachment from your desires.

Everything important in life is a paradox.


On the one hand, you want to push for your goals and dreams like they mean everything.

And the other hand, you need to understand they mean nothing and that, ultimately, all you have is the now, your existence, your oneness with the universe.


Since I’m so ambitious, I have to put a focus on this philosophy:

  • I meditate daily
  • I write down three things I’m grateful for every day
  • I’ve read and studied dozens of Eastern Philosophy texts

People often comment on my work and tell me to “be content.”

Being content takes work.


Most people pretend to be content.

They live in an apathetic limbo They’re not really grateful for what they have. Their ‘gratitude’ is actually a coping mechanism they use to justify their inability to act — to face that inner critic and really do something.


Most people can say “I feel grateful to have a roof over my head, food on my stomach, and clothes on my back.”

Go above and beyond that.

Can you be grateful for the obstacles, pain, and tragedy that can make you stronger?

Can you be grateful for the outcomes you’ve earned through hard work and overcoming the inner critic?

Are you grateful for the abundant opportunities available to you? If so, why aren’t you doing anything with them?


Ah, see, there’s the kicker. Being ‘fake content’ is a lot like having a toolset but building nothing with it.


Think of people who are really grateful like immigrants who come to America.

They work their ass off because they truly appreciate the opportunity, while all the “content” people watch Netflix.


Focus on the proper form of gratitude, the whole form.

You Will Take Care of Your Mind, Body, and Spirit

So much of happiness boils down to:

  • What you put in your body
  • How you move your body
  • The work you do on your mind

If you eat shit food, never exercise, watch tons of T.V., booze it up every weekend, how in the hell are you going to be happy?


You are a biological entity. Your mood is heavily affected by the way you treat your biological entity.

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I’d love to see a case study if society adopted the following:

  • Eating healthy
  • Exercising
  • Going outside to see nature
  • Spending time consciously reaching out connecting with people they love
  • Limited smartphone use
  • Journaling
  • Meditation

If society as a whole managed to do this for, say, six months, I’d suspect we’d see a sharp drop in anxiety — razor sharp.


Do I want you to become a self-improvement robot?



But you have to understand how much of an impact your environment has on your mental state as well as the way you treat the vessel that houses your mind.


All this stuff seems basic and elementary, doesn’t it?


Everything I write is basic and elementary.


The keys to happiness, success, contentment, etc, are sitting right in front of you? But you, we all, want to look for magic answers elsewhere.



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Because facing the truth that you’re not living right is hard to bear. Nobody wants to look in the mirror and admit they’re messing up their own life.


You should want to take care of you the most.


You are…you, after all.

This cognitive dissonance caused by your inability to care for yourself causes a ton of problems.

The only antidote to all of this is my final point.


You Will Take Responsibility For Yourself


Here’s my problem with the ‘snowflakes.’


The people Jonathan Haidt talks about in The Coddling of the American Mind.


I don’t have any moral qualms with people taking little to no responsibility for their life.


It just doesn’t work well.


Instead of thinking in terms of good or bad, think terms of useful or not useful.


What is the use in griping about the government? What else can you do above writing a letter to your congressperson and voting in November? Not much.

So why all the obsession over politics?

You’re hiding.


You’re a woman, a minority, gay, [insert marginalized group here]?


What’s the next move, though?

You have to live your life.

I know successful people in every single marginalized category you can think of. Every.

Do you know what they have in common?


They all had a similar conversation with themselves:


“Yeah, this shit is kind of unfair, but…life is short, I don’t have time to wait for everything to be perfect, I’m still going to try to win anyway.”


Complaining just doesn’t do all that much.


Again, no moral judgment, but it’s mostly a waste of time.


If you want to be a social media activist, go right ahead. It is, after all, a free country.


If you want to wait for society to be perfect, go ahead.


I’m here to make suggestions.

I don’t know you.

If you think my advice sucks, just don’t follow it.

I make educated guesses as to what will happen if you choose a certain route.


And if you don’t adopt a philosophy of personal responsibility life is going to be very, very, very hard for you.

Don’t do it for me.

Do it for you.

Trust me.

You’re better off.


If you’re the type of person who doesn’t take responsibility for themselves, you’re already experiencing the misery that comes with it.


Project that out to the rest of your life.

Not good, friend.

Not good at all.


Honestly, taking responsibility for yourself isn’t the best option in an objective sense.

I don’t look at it from a moral perspective.


It’s simply better for your own well being and happiness.

It’s more useful.

Use it





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Take a moment to think about how you treat yourself when you make a mistake or fail to reach a goal. If you tend to beat yourself up when things go wrong, you, like most people, can use a little more self-compassion in your life.

Forgiving and nurturing yourself seem to have benefits in their own right. Strong self-compassion can even set the stage for better health, relationships, and general well-being. So far, research has revealed a number of benefits of self-compassion. Lower levels of anxiety and depression have been observed in people with higher self-compassion. Self-compassionate people recognize when they are suffering and are kind to themselves at these times, thereby lowering their own levels of related anxiety and depression.

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Learn to have self-compassion

Some people come by self-compassion naturally, but not everyone does. Luckily, it is a learnable skill. Several methods have been proposed, and training programs are being developed, to help people discover and cultivate their own self-compassion.

Here are four ways to give your self-compassion skills a quick boost:

  • Comfort your body. Eat something healthy. Lie down and rest. Massage your own neck, feet, or hands. Take a walk. Anything you can do to improve how you feel physically gives you a dose of self-compassion.
  • Write a letter to yourself. Think of a situation that caused you to feel pain (a breakup with a lover, a job loss, a poorly received presentation). Write a letter to yourself describing the situation, but without blaming anyone — including yourself. Use this exercise to nurture your feelings.
  • Give yourself encouragement. Think of what you would say to a good friend if he or she was facing a difficult or stressful situation. Then, when you find yourself in this kind of situation, direct these compassionate responses toward yourself.
  • Practice mindfulness. Even a quick exercise, such as meditating for a few minutes, can be a great way to nurture and accept ourselves while we're in pain.

For more ways to draw on your strengths and find the positive meaning in your life, review Positive Psychology, a Special Health Report from Harvard Medical School.

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The degree to which you open up to and embrace the life energy that you use as raw material for your thoughts and feelings.


Removing the gunk that clogs up and inhibits the flow of life energy moving through you.


A fusion of thought and feeling that expands your consciousness.


Tree House


Tree House

by Madisyn Taylor

A new view of a situation is just what we need to answer a difficult question, or see something we've been missing.

There is no greater way to escape the troubles of daily life than to ascend into the welcoming embrace of a tree house. Like a bird in its nest, we feel held and safe in the branches, cloaked within a curtain of green leaves. Here we can breathe more freely and think more clearly, our hearts and brains fed by the oxygen released by the leaves. We float above the everyday world of the ground, enjoying a bird's-eye view of all that remains below.

We may choose to be alone or we may invite a special friend to join us. Either way, this is our private world in which we get to decide who comes and goes. It is our haven where we can fully be who we are, shed the masks required by the world below, and reveal our most hidden secrets, dreams, and desires. It is also an ideal vantage point on the life that continues below the branches. Often, a new view of a situation is just what we need to answer a difficult question, solve a challenging problem, or see something we've been missing. It is as if we have ascended into the heavens and are able to tap into a higher awareness. We can draw on this airy energy to revitalize us, relax us, and feed us new ideas. When we descend, we are ready to enter the world again, cleaner, clearer, and often more inspired.

If you haven't been in a tree house for a while, now may be the time to make one for yourself or find one you can borrow. If you can't find or create an actual tree house, think of other venues that could provide the same experience--a rooftop perch, a quiet spot in a grove of trees on a hilltop, a light-filled attic. Or just close your eyes and visualize yourself ensconced in your perfect home in the branches of your favorite tree.



When Isolation Is Ok

by Madisyn Taylor

       Sometimes we need to be alone, to simply do            nothing but enjoy the sound of silence.

We all need time alone. Even those of us who are social butterflies need some time to ourselves. Solitude is necessary for meditation and quiet reflection. We also may choose to isolate ourselves when we are busy and need to meet a deadline. We may cherish time alone when we want to give ourselves over to art or music, lose ourselves in a good book, or delve into a personal project. Having time to ourselves allows us to focus completely on our yoga practice or get into the zone while running or strength training. Sometimes we need to be alone to simply do nothing but enjoy the sound of silence. Our alone time revitalizes and replenishes us, grounding us in our own company.

Yet, too much isolation, especially when our intention is to hide, withdraw, or not deal with the realities of our lives is not physically, mentally, or spiritually healthy. It is during moments like these when being in isolation takes us away from our lives, rather than enhancing it. If anything, too much isolation can create a buffer whereby we don't have to deal with our problems. Sometimes, pushing ourselves to deal with our issues and be in our lives, rather than isolate, is one of the best gifts we can give to ourselves.

Also, just as it is important for us to have our "alone" time, we need to remember that as human beings, we are by nature social creatures that thrive on human contact. Our lives cannot occur in a vacuum, and we cannot fully live in this world without interacting with others. Consider using isolation as time spent for rest, reinvigoration, and personal growth. Isolation can then not only empower you, but it can allow you to return to your work and your relationships restored and ready for life.

How To Overcome Loneliness

by Mark I Myhre




Loneliness naturally occurs.

But we tend to react to emotions unnaturally. We tend to try hard to not feel them. When we do this, emotions tend to grow big and dark and hairy.


Fear and loneliness let us know we’re moving in the wrong direction. We’re getting farther from home… farther from ourselves. It’s time to come home.


So let’s take a look at how to overcome it.


See, the goal is not to never feel lonely. The goal is to feel it as deeply as possible, then let it pass right through you. It’s like eating food. You eat it, your body extracts the goodness from it, and then the rest finds its way back to the earth.


The key involves engaging the feeling process. When you engage your feeling process, you want to seek out and find the unresolved emotion inside you. Unfelt emotion becomes like a delicious meal. You look forward to it. You can’t wait to sit down and dig in.


And the mere thought of avoiding your loneliness, by distracting yourself from it, or putting yourself in situations where it won’t come up, seems odd. It makes no sense.


“Why in the world would you avoid your loneliness?”

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Starting from empty.

by Madisyn Taylor

Live your life as if your glass is half-full rather than half-empty, all you need is a change of thought.

We are all familiar with the metaphorical story of two people looking at the same glass and one perceiving it as half-full while the other sees it as half-empty. As much as we've heard this, it's still a valuable exercise to really observe our minds and notice whether we are engaged in half-full or half-empty thinking. People will refer to themselves as being of one type or the other as if it was a permanent characteristic, but we are all capable of shifting into a half-full consciousness if we simply make the effort.

When we look at our lives with half-empty consciousness, we perceive a lack and think that the other half of what we want is missing. We are coming from a position of expectation and entitlement. On the other hand, when we look at our lives as half-full we perceive fullness. It is as if we recognize that our cup could be fully empty and so we are grateful for what we see as bounty--not something we expect or believe we are owed, but a gift. In half-full consciousness, we count our blessings. When we look at our lives we see all the elements that are in place and all the things we do have. This doesn't necessarily mean we don't seek more, but we seek from a place of fullness instead of from a place of lack. This fullness draws positive energy into our lives and often attracts more abundance.

If you would like to begin to make the shift into half-full consciousness, try imagining your life as an empty glass. This is your life without all the people you know, the work you do, your home, or your current state of physical wellbeing. This is just an empty, open space waiting to be filled. Once you have that feeling of openness in your mind, begin filling it with all the people, things, and places that make up your life. You may be surprised to find your glass overflowing.

Overcoming Loneliness

by Mark I Myhre


Transform Loneliness Into A Fortress Of Solitude



Transform Loneliness Into A Fortress Of Solitude


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Do You Know Your Self Worth?

Andrew Chin

In order to achieve anything in life, it is important that you know your self worth.  Knowing your self worth means that you know that you deserve to be treated a certain way; that you deserve certain things in life simply because you are a human being.  Your self worth does not disappear because you made a mistake or failed at something, it is something is inherent in all people and will never fade in quantity or value. 


How do you realize your self worth?


Many people go through their entire lives never fully realizing their full potential because they do not believe in themselves or their self worth.  These people often look to others to enjoy even the smallest tidbit of validation.  This is no way to live.


In order to realize your self worth there are several avenues you can take.  One avenue is to make a list of all your attributes, good and bad, and as honest and as accurately as possible, assess them from one to ten with ten being the best.  This can give you an idea of how you think of yourself and how you see yourself.  While we can be our worst enemies, it can also be helpful to get feedback from friends who we know are honest and will only give you helpful feedback. 


You can also realize your self worth by beginning projects and endeavors that will bring about positive remarks and comments about your performance and your personality traits.  Join a sports league, volunteer for charity work, help a neighbor.  These are all things that can help boost your self worth and feelings of self value.  Think about what you do and what you might say to a best friend who was achieving and going through similar experiences. 


What would you say to him or her?  Their place in your life is infinitely valuable.  Rest assured that yours in their life is too.


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Self-Acceptance with Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT)

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The Emotional Freedom Technique, or EFT, is the psychological acupressure technique I routinely use in my practice and most highly recommend to optimize your emotional health. Although it is still often overlooked, emotional health is absolutely essential to your physical health and healing - no matter how devoted you are to the proper diet and lifestyle, you will not achieve your body's ideal healing and preventative powers if emotional barriers stand in your way.


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Designing a Future Marked by High Self-Esteem

Studies show that more than 85% of the world’s population suffers from some degree of diminished self-worth. For most people who lack a positive self-image, the future looks like a mere extension of their troubled past – their expectation of what is to be is consistent with what has been, with a slight and predictable level of improvement. Because of their lacking self-esteem, most are resigned to a life that lacks the excitement and passion characterizing the lives of those who feel worthy of tapping into the best things life has to offer. People who possess a positive self-image typically have an optimistic expectation of what is ahead of them, and as a result they realize this expectation as a self-fulfilling prophesy. 


In contrast to the state of resignation that typifies those with diminished self-esteem, consider the possibility that the future lives as the realization of a promise – a promise you make to yourself and to the world. The future will result from your expectations, and the quality of your future will be impacted by the commitment you have for it. It lives as a possibility. In other words, you get to invent it. In fact, you are the sole designer and architect of what is to be, and the result will be entirely consistent with your expectation and your self-image.


Our future will be directly related to what we expect for it to be. If we doubt our self-worth, and expect our future lives to be worse than our current situation, we will sabotage ourselves into making it turn out into a self-fulfilling prophesy. If we limit our expectations, and plan on more of the same results we have experienced to date, our apathy will generate a future consistent with this expectation. To the contrary, if we believe in ourselves, and our expectation is that our future will be better than our present situation, self-motivation will lead to actions that will bring about the positive outcome we envision.



If we feel good about ourselves, and expect to live happy, fulfilled, and successful lives, we will take the actions consistent with realizing that expectation. We will therefore generate the opportunities that will result in rich relationships, abundance, and joy being attracted to our lives – because we believe we deserve it, and act on this belief.


We get what we expect, and attract prosperity or lack joy or sorrow. We have rewarding relationships or angry, frustrating ones – all as a result of whether or not we feel worthy. Just as we can doubt our abilities to succeed, and our worthiness for attracting rewarding friends and intimate relationships, we can instead choose to take full responsibility for expecting all aspects of our lives to be the way we want them to turn out. When we come from this positive mindset, and commit to manifesting our dream lives, we put forth an energy that attracts all the things we desire to us.


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