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Relying on Others

by Madisyn Taylor

A deep feeling of gratitude can emerge, as we open to the experience of being helped.

Most of us pride ourselves on our self-sufficiency. We like to be responsible for taking care of ourselves and pulling our own weight in the world. This is why it can be so challenging when we find ourselves in a situation in which we have to rely on someone else. This can happen as the result of an illness or an injury, or even in the case of a positive change, such as the arrival of a newborn. At times like these, it is essential that we let go of our feeling that we should be able to do it all by ourselves and accept the help of others.

The first step is accepting the situation fully as it is. Too often we make things worse either by trying to do more than we should or by lapsing into feelings of uselessness. In both cases we run the risk of actually prolonging our dependency. In addition, we miss a valuable opportunity to practice acceptance and humility. The ego resists what is, so when we move into acceptance we move into the deeper realm of the soul. In needing others and allowing them to help us, we experience the full realization that we are not on our own in the world.

 

While this may bring up feelings of vulnerability, a deep feeling of gratitude may also emerge as we open to the experience of being helped. This realization can enable us to be wiser in our service of others when we are called upon to help.

It takes wisdom and strength to surrender to our own helplessness and to accept that we, just like every other human being, have limitations. The gifts of surrender are numerous.

 

We discover humility, gratitude, and a deepening understanding of the human experience that enables us to be that much more compassionate and surrendered in the world.

 

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EMOTIONAL HEALTH –

The degree to which you open up to and embrace the life energy that you use as raw material for your thoughts and feelings.

EMOTIONAL HEALING –

Removing the gunk that clogs up and inhibits the flow of life energy moving through you.

EMOTION –

A fusion of thought and feeling that expands your consciousness.

 

 

 

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10 Fatal Mistakes that Kill Conversations

                    And how to avoid them.

Jessica Wildfire

Think about the people you enjoy talking to most. They make everyone feel better — a little smarter, a little calmer.

 

Now think about the ones you enjoy talking to least. It feels like a chore. The entire time, you just want it to end.

 

Afterward, you need a drink.

 

A good conversationalist is a good listener. They’re responsive. The best conversations have a few things in common — a mix of funny stories, factoids, anecdotes, observations, and questions. Or if they’re serious, they show sincerity and respect. That’s pretty much it.

 

A good conversation is simple, and it’s actually not hard with a little practice. You don’t have to light everyone’s minds up with witty banter. You don’t have to be a conversation genius.

In fact, trying to is what normally kills conversation.

 

Mainly, you just have to avoid irritating people. Like great conversations, the worst ones also have a handful of things in common — usually it’s someone using conversation as a means to another end.

 

1. Trying too hard to get something out of it

The worst thing you can do in a conversation is push an agenda. People know when you’re talking to them just to get something.

 

How to fix it:

Don’t ask for anything. Even if you’re talking to someone you want something from, don’t ask. Wait for them to offer.

 

If you have to ask, do it later.

 

2. Trying to bullshit everyone

 

Some wannabe entrepreneurs call this a skill. It’s not. The second you pretend to know more than you do, people can tell. They’re usually just too polite to call you on it. Or they just write you off.

 

Here’s how to fix it:

Get comfortable with asking questions, and saying, “I’m not sure.” Faking expertise loses way more respect than taking on the role of a novice. Besides, that’s how you become an expert in the first place.

 

3. Making it all about you

 

A selfish talker will use anything you say as a jumping off point into their own stories. They’ll ask the most random questions like, “Have you ever been to Egypt?” or “Have you read Infinite Jest?” Because they have, and they want to tell you all about it. They also offer way too much information, and name drop like crazy. Anyone who does this only wants a spotlight.

Here’s how to fix it:

 

Don’t walk into a conversation with the goal of telling your favorite stories or sharing your most precious knowledge.

 

Let a conversation follow its own path. Let other people talk and tell their stories. Responses will pop into your head. If you remember a story or some piece of information in the moment, that’s the thing you should share. It should come spontaneously.

 

4. The dreaded humble brag

 

Everyone feels tempted to share good news, or just promote themselves. We’re all good at something. We’ve all done exciting things. Most of us get engaged, married, or promoted.

The problem is when you get so focused on your good news, you assume nobody else has ever done anything meaningful with their lives. You assume up front they won’t be happy for you. That’s when you immediately try to downplay the big news you just shared. Trying to be humble usually comes off as arrogant and condescending.

 

Here’s how to fix it:

If you have good news, just spit it out. Humble bragging doesn’t work because it’s false modesty, and therefore a form of bullshit.

 

5. Kissing invisible ass

 

The person you’re sucking up to isn’t even there, but you’re talking about them in 3rd person like they’re Genghis Khan. There’s literally no point here except you’re so delusional you think this person is omnipotent, or you’re so paranoid you think they bugged the room.

Most of us have probably crossed this line at some point.

 

Here’s how to fix it:

If you feel compelled to praise someone, try keeping it under one sentence. Be specific, and use understatement.

 

6. Dancing around the point

 

Everything you say should have a goal, and not just a selfish one. You should be trying to inform, entertain, or persuade.

 

We all hate it when someone tells long stories with a bunch of random details that don’t matter, or treat random trivia and gossip like some kind of groundbreaking truth or revelation.

 

Here’s how to fix it:

Remember that advice for writers — show don’t tell? Well, the opposite applies to conversation.

Keep your anecdotes short. If you’re worried about offending someone, then just don’t say what’s in your head. Say anything else.

 

7. Ignoring all body language

 

At least half of conversation happens through facial expressions and other cues. Misreading or ignoring a cue could mean you trap someone who’s trying to politely excuse themselves.

 

Here’s how to fix it:

Learn how to pick up on subtle cues. Buy a book on body language and facial expression. If someone looks uncomfortable, give them an easy out — or excuse yourself.

 

8. Refusing to ever pause

 

This is one of easiest mistakes to make. You get carried away with yourself and then don’t let up. One idea bleeds into the next. Before you know it, the person standing in front of you has turned to stone.

 

Here’s how to fix it:

Actually pause. Take a breath every now and then. See point #7. If someone opens their mouth, and you’ve been talking a lot, then wrap up your story and let them interject something.

Practice asking more questions. Actually wait for an answer. Stop trying so hard to fill all the little gaps.

 

9. Pointing out the super obvious

 

We all know that one guy who can’t seem to stop talking. Instead of coming up with new topics, though, he’ll fixate on something like the temperature. He’ll even turn political debates into the simplest black and white issues — something you really can’t discuss. You find yourself saying things to them like, “Yeah the impeachment really is nuts, Bob.”

 

How to fix it:

If you can’t think of anything to say, then just stay quiet and listen. Trying too hard is what kills a conversation.

State the super obvious to yourself inside your head. Wait for something with a little more depth.

Get comfortable with silence.

 

10. Forcing advice on someone

 

When someone’s venting, they usually don’t want advice. There’s a good chance they’ve already tried what you’re about to suggest anyway. It’s even worse when someone pretends to know every detail about your situation, or trivializes it by saying something like “All you have to do is…”

 

How to fix it:

Just listen and prompt them for details. If you have a suggestion, then preface it by saying, “Have you tried X?”

Wait for them to actually ask for advice, or say something like “I just don’t know what to do.”

If you really want to help someone having a rough time, then offer to talk to them more about it later. Be modest. Say something like, “I’ve been through something similar, and I’d be happy to tell you what worked for me.” That last part is crucial — it’s what worked for you.

 

Conversation isn’t that hard

 

All you have to do for a good conversation is show up and let go. Ask simple questions. Weekend plans. Hobbies. Books or articles they’ve read. Places they’ve been. Old jobs.

What’s their favorite drink?

 

It’s not the first question you ask, it’s the follow ups — the five Ws (who, what, when, where, why). Get the other person to expand and elaborate. Why is it their favorite drink? When they did first try it? Then you tell them your favorite drink. Before you know it, you’ve learned a lot about someone in just an hour — more than you thought possible.

 

The problem is that we walk into conversations with grand plans and expectations. We want to promote ourselves and look smart.

 

A conversation isn’t a dance off. It’s a waltz. Some conversations are better than others. Sometimes they just die. But if you avoid these 10 laws, at least you won’t be the one who killed it.

 

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5 Questions To Ask When Getting To Know Someone

A practical guide to creating meaningful relationships.Matt LillywhiteMatt Lillywhite

 

Making New Friends is Easier Than You Think | The Modern Man

 

How often are you lost for words during a conversation?

 

If you’re anything like my former-self, your response will be something along the lines of “all the time.”

Right?

 

We all want to have incredible relationships and connect with other people on a meaningful level. But the problem is that we don’t know how to start.

It sucks.

 

Consequently, you overthink every message, response, and your mind goes into overdrive as to whether the other person is genuinely enjoying the conversation.

 

Throughout my life, I’ve found myself in the same position as you many times.

But I’ve discovered that asking the right questions during a conversation is equally important as giving a meaningful response.

 

In the words of Tony Robbins:

“Successful people ask better questions, and as a result, they get better answers.”

 

So below are several questions that have massively improved the quality of my conversations.

Each one of them enabled me to generate meaningful relationships, and I hope they do the same for you, too.

 

What’s Your Story?

 

Asking open-ended questions is an excellent way for someone to reveal different aspects of their life, and talk about whatever subjects they enjoy.

 

Research shows that we love talking about ourselves.

Quoting an article from Psychology Today: “talking about oneself activates the same areas of the brain that light up when eating good food, taking drugs and even having sex.

Simply put, self-disclosure is gratifying.”

 

So if you’re able to make someone feel good by talking about themselves, the probability of developing a relationship and establishing a meaningful connection is much higher.

 

Which Of Your Friends Or Family Do You Look Up To Most?

 

Seneca says, “you can tell the character of every man when you see how he gives and receives praise.”

 

When you’re able to understand why someone gives respect, their core values in life quickly become evident.

 

Throughout my life, my mom has been at the epicenter of my respect.

Having raised me & my little brother as a single parent, she’s always aimed to act in our best interest.

Earlier this year, she got diagnosed with Breast Cancer. Despite living in New Zealand at the time, I decided to fly back to the UK, so I could be with my family while she was having surgery & in recovery.

 

Take a moment to think about someone that you look up to with enormous amounts of respect.

And whenever you find yourself in a conversation, ask the other person to do the same.

You’ll discover that it’s a genuinely humbling mental exercise.

 

What Book Had The Greatest Impact On Your Life?

 

I’ve discovered that you can tell a lot about someone by the type of books they read.

After all, the kind of content we consume is what helps to shape our thoughts & identity.

 

Several months ago, my mental & physical health took a turn for the worse.

I was unsure how to escape my constant negative way of thinking and quickly plunged into a spiral of depression.

But while exploring the Calgary public library, I found a book titled “The Obstacle Is The Way” by Ryan Holiday.

 

Using examples from ancient philosophy, the lessons from that book helped me to change my perception of adversity, overcome my negative mindset, and live a much happier life.

 

Occasionally, you might find a book that completely turns your life around and enables you to live with a renewed sense of fulfillment.

 

So asking people which book changed their life might help to improve yours, too.

 

What’s An Obstacle You’re Currently Afraid Of Facing?

 

Marcus Aurelius, the former Roman emperor, once said: “The impediment to action advances action. What stands in the way becomes the way.”

 

A great truth of life is that fear comes from uncertainty.

 

However, you can also use fear as a motivator to grow as a person and overcome any obstacle that stands in your way.

 

For example, I used to be afraid of talking to strangers in public.

But once I overcame my fear and began having conversations, my self-confidence massively increased as a result.

 

We don’t like to talk about the things which scare us.

But whenever you have a conversation about fear, remember that embracing it can give you the courage to change the narrative in your head that’s preventing you from succeeding.

 

If You Could Restart Life, What Would You Do Differently?

 

Regret is something that we all experience, but often don’t want to face as it forces us to admit our mistakes.

 

However, I’ve found that when you reflect on your past, it provides an opportunity to reverse course and prevent the same errors from happening in the future.

 

Lewis Carroll said it best:

“We only regret the chances we didn’t take, the relationships we were afraid to have, and the decisions we waited too long to make.”

 

When you become emotionally vulnerable about the past and tell your regrets to someone else, it immediately creates a feeling of trust between you both.

 

So if you want to have a thought-provoking conversation, talking about regret will help you to look back on the past and discuss ways to improve the future.

 

Creating meaningful relationships begins with the art of asking better questions, and listening with the intent to understand whatever the other person says during the conversation.

 

In the words of Epictetus: “We have two ears and one mouth so that we can listen twice as much as we speak.”

 

Remember: To generate meaningful relationships, all you need to do is listen.

 

 

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15 Things Real Friends Do Differently

 

As we grow, we realize it becomes less important to have more friends and more important to have real ones.

Remember, life is kind of like a party.  You invite a lot of people, some leave early, some stay all night, some laugh with you, some laugh at you, and some show up really late.  But in the end, after the fun, there are a few who stay to help you clean up the mess.  And most of the time, they aren’t even the ones who made the mess.  These people are your real friends in life.  They are the ones who matter most.

 

Here are 15 things real friends do differently:

  1. They face problems together. – A person who truly knows and loves you – a real friend – is someone who sees the pain in your eyes while everyone else still believes the smile on your face.  Don’t look for someone who will solve all your problems; look for someone who will face them with you.

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Confidence in Social Situations

by Madisyn Taylor

If you feel shy or awkward in social situations, know that many others are probably feeling the same way too.

If you've ever been to a social gathering where you've felt awkward and uncomfortable, chances are you are not alone. While social gatherings can be very enjoyable, especially when we are surrounded by people whose company we enjoy, there are social events that we attend where we sometimes find ourselves wishing we were someplace else. Such occasions can sometimes be the cause of much anxiety and self-consciousness. We may even feel like everyone else is having a good time except for us. Yet the truth is that everyone has felt shy and awkward on occasion. One of the best ways to overcome self-consciousness or get past your feelings of shyness at social gatherings is to focus on the people around you. If you can remember that other people might also be feeling awkward or shy, you might find the thought of speaking to them less intimidating or overwhelming.

The next time there is a social event you feel nervous about attending, you may want to try this exercise: Spend some time with your eyes closed and breathe deeply. When you feel ready, create your own zone of comfort by visualizing yourself surrounded in a warm white light that is protective yet accepting of others. Imagine people at the event being drawn to you because of the open and warm feelings that you are radiating. When you arrive at the event, take a moment to spread this same light of loving acceptance to everyone around you. Smile and greet people warmly. Try going up to someone who is standing alone and introduce yourself. When you radiate acceptance, openness, and receptivity, people can't help but respond to you in kind.

Focusing on how we can make other people at a social gathering feel at ease can help us forget about our own insecurities. In the process, we end up making the very connections that we seek. The next time you attend a social gathering, invite people to join you in your zone of comfort that you have so lovingly and intentionally created. Let yourself enjoy being encircled in the warmth of their friendships.

 

18 Important Reminders About Living Up to People’s Expectations

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18 Important Reminders About Living Up to People's Expectations

 

Your needs matter. Don’t ignore them. Sometimes you have to do what’s best for you and your life, not what’s best for everyone else.

 

A life spent ceaselessly trying to please people who are perhaps incapable of ever being pleased, or trying too hard to always be seen as doing “what’s expected of you,” is a sure road to a regretful existence. Marc and I were on this road once, but I’m happy to say we’re paving our own path now based on our own needs, morals and values. And today I hope to inspire you to do the same…

 

Do more than just exist. We all exist. The question is: Do you live?

Marc and I eventually realized existing without ever truly living was not what we wanted for ourselves. So we made changes – we gradually embraced the points discussed in this article and never looked back. If you are in the same place we once were – seeking approval from everyone for every little thing you do – please take this post to heart and start making changes today. Life is too short not to.

 

  1. First and foremost, you are not obligated to live up to everyone’s expectations. – Life is under no obligation to give us what we expect. And you are under no obligation to give others what they expect. Period. Do things because you care. Do things because you know it’s right. Don’t just do things because everyone else expects you to.
  2. Expectations just get in the way of great life experiences. – Don’t let expectations (especially other people’s expectations) get in your way. Truth be told, the unexpected is often better than the expected. Our entire lives can be described in one sentence: It didn’t go as planned, and that’s OK.
  3. You don’t need others to hold your hand every step of the way. – Be willing to go alone sometimes. You don’t need permission to grow. Not everyone who started with you will finish with you. And that’s OK. (Read The Road Less Traveled.)
  4. You get to learn from your mistakes without unnecessary third-party pressure. – You’re going to mess up sometimes. But the good news is, as long as you’re listening to your intuition, you get to decide how you’re going to mess up. Which means you get to decide how you’re going to live and what you’re going to learn along the way.
  5. No one knows you better than you know yourself. – How you seem to others and how you actually are, rarely match. Even if they get the basic gist of who you are, they’re still missing a big piece of the puzzle. What other people think of you will rarely contain the whole truth, which is fine. So if someone forms an opinion of you based on superficialities, then it’s up to them, not you, to reform those opinions. Leave it to them to worry about. You know who you are and what’s best for you.
  6. Only YOU can define what’s possible for you and your life. – Some people will kill you over time if you let them; and how they’ll kill you is with tiny, harmless phrases like, “Be realistic.” When this happens, close your ears and listen to your inner voice instead. Remember that real success in life isn’t what others see, but how you feel. It’s living your truth and doing what makes you feel alive.
  7. In the end, happiness is simply living your life your own way. – There comes a time when your back is up against the wall and you realize all you can do is say, “Screw it, I’m doing things my way!” That’s the earth-shattering moment you stop planning for someone else’s expectations, and start making progress on what’s truly important to YOU. That’s when you begin to live life according to your own morals and values. That’s when you can finally be at your happiest.
  8. You can best serve yourself and others by giving yourself what YOU need. – Don’t ask yourself what the world needs, ask yourself what makes you come alive, and pursue it at all costs. That’s what this world needs – people like YOU who come alive. Which means your needs matter; so don’t ignore them. Sometimes you have to do what’s best for you and your life, not just what seems best on the surface for everyone else.
  9. Rather than being confined by opinions, you need to create your own reality. – If J.K. Rowling stopped after being rejected by multiple publishers for years, there would be no Harry Potter. If Howard Schultz gave up after being turned down by banks 200+ times, there would be no Starbucks. If Walt Disney quit too soon after his theme park concept was trashed by 300+ investors, there would be no Disney World. One thing is for sure: If you give too much power to the opinions of others, you will become their prisoner. So never let someone’s opinion define your reality. (Read Daring Greatly.)
  10. You need to allow yourself the freedom to speak your truth. – Yes, speak your truth even if your voice shakes. Be cordial and reasonable, of course, but don’t tread carefully on every word you say. Push your concerns of what others might think aside. Let the consequences of doing so unravel naturally. What you’ll find is that most of the time no one will be offended or irritated at all. And if they do get upset, it’s likely only because you’ve started behaving in a way that makes them feel they have less power over you. Think about it. Why lie?
  11. The wrong people should not be able to tamper with your standards. – Remember, failed relationships aren’t designed to encourage you to lower your standards, but to raise them and keep them up. So while you’re out there making decisions instead of excuses, learning new things, and getting closer and closer to your goals, know that there are others out there, like me, who admire your efforts and are striving for greatness too. Bottom line: Don’t let the wrong people bring you down.
  12. The haters can have less of an effect on you. Don’t worry about the haters, ever. Don’t let them get to you. They’re just upset because the truth you know contradicts the lies they live. Period.
  13. Your individuality can be openly celebrated and enjoyed. – Constantly seeking approval means you’re perpetually worried that others are forming negative judgments of you. This steals the fun, ingenuity, and spontaneity from your life. Flip the switch on this habit. If you’re lucky enough to have something that makes you different from everybody else, don’t be ashamed and don’t change. Uniqueness is priceless. In this crazy world that’s trying to make you like everyone else, find the courage to keep being your remarkable self. It takes a lot of courage to stand alone, but it’s worth it. Being unapologetically YOU is worth it!
  14. There can very easily be less drama to deal with on a daily basis. – Forgo the drama. Ignore the negativity around you. Just be sincere and kind, and promote what you love instead of bashing what you hate.
  15. You can create more time to socialize with the right people.When you’re feeling insecure, you typically don’t notice the hundreds of people around you who accept you just the way you are. All you notice are the few who don’t. Don’t ever forget your worth. Spend time with those who value you. No matter how good you are to people, there will always be negative minds out there who criticize you. Smile, ignore them, and carry on. You might feel unwanted and unworthy to one person, but you are priceless to another.
  16. Great relationships are not governed by one-sided expectations. – When it comes to your relationships, don’t keep everything you need to say to yourself. Let it out. Express your point of view. Communication is not just an important part of a relationship, communication is the relationship. Communicate even when it’s uncomfortable and uneasy. One of the best ways to heal and grow a relationship is simply getting everything on the inside out in the open. Compromise. That’s how good people make great things happen together.
  17. You can be YOUR best, without competing with everyone else. – When you are happy to simply do your best and not compare or compete, everyone worth your while will respect you. Here’s some healthy food for thought: Always… Be strong, but not rude. Be kind, but not weak. Be humble, but not timid. Be proud, but not arrogant. Be bold, but not a bully. (Marc and I discuss these concepts in more detail in the “Relationships” chapter of the brand NEW edition of 1,000 Little Things Happy, Successful People Do Differently.)
  18. You are not obligated to anyone more so than you are to yourself. – Your relationship with yourself is the closest and most important relationship you will ever have. So don’t forget about YOU out there, and don’t be too hard on yourself either. There are plenty of others willing to do both for you. And remember, if you don’t take good care of yourself, then you can’t take good care of others either; which is why taking care of yourself is the best selfish thing you can do.

Now, it’s your turn…

Yes, it’s your turn to give up trying to live up to people’s expectations

All the love and validation you need is yours to give yourself.

Let that sink in. Then leverage the reminders above as needed to let it sink in even deeper.

Evaluating Our Relationships

by Madisyn Taylor

Be the friend to others, that you wish them to be to you.

There comes a time in all our lives when we may need to evaluate our relationships, making sure that they are having a positive effect on us, rather than dragging us down. Without realizing it, we may be spending precious time and energy engaging in friendships that let us down, rather than cultivating ones that support and nourish us along our path. Life, with its many twists, turns, and challenges, is difficult enough without us entertaining people in our inner circle who drain our energy. We can do so much more in this world when we are surrounded by people who understand what we're trying to do and who positively support our efforts to walk our path.

We can begin this evaluation process by simply noticing how we feel in the context of each one of our close relationships. We may begin to see that an old friend is still carrying negative attitudes or ideas that we ourselves need to let go of in order to move forward. Or we may find that we have a long-term relationship with someone who has a habit of letting us down, or not showing up for us when we need support. There are many ways to go about changing the status quo in situations like this, having a heart to heart with our friend showing through example. This process isn't so much about abandoning old friends as it is about shifting our relationships so that they support us on our journey rather than holding us back.

An important part of this process is looking at ourselves and noticing what kind of friend we are to the people in our lives. We might find that as we adjust our own approach to a relationship, challenging ourselves to be more supportive and positive, our friends make adjustments as well and the whole world benefits.

 

16 Reasons You’re Succeeding in Life (Even If You Feel Like You’re Losing)

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16 Reasons You're Succeeding in Life (Even If You Feel Like You're Losing)

 

 

A big part of happiness and success is letting go of what you assume your life is supposed to be like right now, and sincerely appreciating it for everything that it is.

 

At times we all feel less than adequate. We feel like we’re running in place, struggling to make even the slightest bit of progress. And while this is a perfectly normal feeling, you have to ultimately break free from it and see yourself and your life in a more positive light.

 

The key is to pay attention to the small things. Just because you’re not where you want to be, doesn’t mean you’re a failure. In fact, quite the opposite is true. To be truly happy and successful today doesn’t mean you don’t desire more in the future, it means you are sincerely thankful for what you have already accomplished and patient for everything yet to come.

 

Train your mind to see the good side of what’s in front of you. Life is a series of thousands of tiny miracles. Notice them. Notice again and again how fortunate you are. The evidence is all around you right now, and it’s beautiful, and well worth gathering into your awareness.

 

Every morning when you wake up, think of three things that are going well in your life at the moment. As you fall asleep every night, fill your mind with an appreciation for all the small things that went well during the day. Examine your daily successes.

 

Give the power of your thinking to the positive influences in your life, and they will grow stronger and more influential every day. Remind yourself of what works well and why, and you’ll naturally find ways to make lots of other things work well too. The most efficient way to enjoy more success in life is not to obsess yourself with what hasn’t worked, but instead to extend and expand upon the success you already know.

 

Here are some much-needed reminders—sixteen good reasons you’re already succeeding in life:

 

  1. You are walking your own path, not anyone else’s. – One of the most foundational sources of both success and happiness is simply being comfortable with who you really are. Not trading your reality for a role or your truth for an act. Not giving up your freedom of thought. Not putting on a mask. So never let anyone’s ignorance, hate, drama or negativity stop you. If you desire to make a difference in the world, you must continue to be different from the world. Don’t be scared to walk alone on your own path, and don’t be scared to like it.
  2. You are gradually working through your fears. – As you know, running from fear is a race you’ll never win. In fact, what you’re afraid of dealing with is often precisely what will set you free. So keep doing what you’ve been doing—take another step forward today. Don’t let your fear decide your future. Don’t let it shut you down. Instead, let it wake you up! Take chances and indulge in the excitement. Tell yourself that the fear of suffering is far worse than the suffering itself. Convince yourself that everything you want is on the other side of fear. Because it is.
  3. You have not let failure stop you. – Every success has a trail of failures behind it, and every failure is leading toward success. Oftentimes our greatest insight comes from our failure, not from our accomplishments. It’s a matter of taking each lesson and stepping forward with it. At the end of the day, whether you choose to go with it, flow with it, resist it, change it, or hide from it, life goes on. If what you did today didn’t turn out as you hoped, tomorrow is a new opportunity try again, or to do something totally different. What’s important is to realize that you have a choice.
  4. You learn something new and grow stronger every day. – To find the best path forward we must occasionally stray from it. There are no wrong turns; only paths we didn’t know we were meant to walk. In the end, to be a success you don’t have to be perfect, you just have to remain perfectly capable of improving. Keep letting your mistakes strengthen you. Life is a series of little journeys. Allow each step to be a teachable moment. And don’t confuse your path with your destination. Just because it’s stormy sometimes, doesn’t mean you aren’t headed for sunshine.
  5. You have overcome some considerable obstacles. – Nothing is ever as bad as it seems. Nothing! There is a benefit and a blessing hidden in the folds of every experience and every outcome. Consider the possibility that the little obstacles in your life’s path are not obstacles at all, but stepping-stones to amazing places.
  6. You do your best to love what is. – A big part of success and happiness is not getting everything you want, but mindfully wanting what you get. After all, stress is resistance to what is. Continue to accept what comes to you totally and completely, so you can appreciate it, learn from it and then let it go. Sometimes the best possible response is simply allowing yourself to be at peace with what is, rather than wishing for, and bemoaning, what is not. It’s about doing the best you can with the hand you’ve been dealt.
  7. You try to be as present as possible. – We all have two lives. And the second one starts now, when we realize that we only have one. Really, nothing is worth more than today. Because you can’t change yesterday or accurately predict tomorrow, but you can ruin today—your real life—by worrying about those two illusory eternities. So stay present and focus on what you can create today. Tomorrow will reveal itself exactly as it should, just as yesterday already has. (Read The Power of Now.)
  8. You love yourself first, instead of loving the idea of everyone else loving you. – Putting yourself first does not mean being “selfish.” It means being self-aware. It means never forgetting to love yourself, too.
  9. You don’t judge people. – People are sometimes too quick to judge, but slow to correct themselves. You know this and you graciously do the opposite. It’s impressive, really. Because it’s much easier to judge people than it is to understand them. Understanding takes extra kindness and patience, and this “extra” is worth it. This “extra” makes a big difference in the end.
  10. You are the reason some people smile. – Do not miss a chance – not one single, tiny opportunity – to tell someone how wonderful they are and how beautiful they are, inside and out.
  11. You have incredible people in your life. – Your capacity to be both effective and happy is directly related to the quality of people whom most closely surround you every single day. Having just one or two of these people a phone call away is truly a priceless blessing. These relationships are worth celebrating.
  12. You have been selfless in your closest relationships. – Almost every immoral action ever committed can be traced back to a selfish motive. It is a trait we hate in other people but often justify in ourselves. The fact that you have made sacrifices for people you love is remarkable in every way. I know it’s not easy. It’s one of the very hardest parts of loving someone – you have to give things up for them. And sometimes, you even have to give them up, selflessly.
  13. You have given up doing things for others out of guilt. – Sometimes we give in to our loved one’s requests out of guilt. But we need to stop feeling guilty for not giving the people we care about everything they want. It’s sometimes a hard pill to swallow, but we foster the attitude of entitlement in our lives and relationships when we are ruled by a guilty conscience. It’s OK to say “no” to friends and family sometimes. You know this, so just keep doing what you know is right, and never let false guilt get the best of you.
  14. You aren’t overspending to impress or satisfy others. – I think it’s good for our friends and family to hear us say, “I can’t afford that” or “We will have to save for it.” Because that’s real life. We don’t have all the money in the world to buy everything we could ever want. If you think about it, I bet you’ve known families before who are working multiple jobs to drive luxury cars and keep their kids in expensive extracurricular activities, when honestly, everyone would be happier and better off with more family and friendship time and less financial stress.
  15. You respect yourself enough to never let anyone walk all over you. – A simple reminder, but so very important: Never, ever submit your self-worth or moral values to a relationship. True love and friendship can flower only under the sun of mutual respect. Some people may try to trample your garden and walk all over you, but you don’t have to sit there and take it. Period. (Marc and I discuss this in detail in the “Self-Love” chapter of the NEW volume of 1,000 Little Things Happy, Successful People Do Differently.)
  16. You know you can’t please everyone, and you don’t try. – That’s right. Keep standing strong. Don’t let the negative opinions of others derail you. Ultimately, there are two kinds of people – those who are a drain on your energy and creative force, and those who give you energy and support your growth. Avoid the first kind. May the bridges you burn light your way. Just be happy, be honest and be true to yourself every day. If others don’t like it, let them be. Success in life isn’t about pleasing everyone.

Now it’s your turn…

If you can’t check-off every point from this list, no big deal. This list is just a rough guideline. We all need our own time to travel our own distance, our own way. But keep in mind, the principle still applies:

Success is not a skill; it’s a persistent attitude. It’s not a place you arrive at; it’s a process you live through. It’s what you do every day. It’s what you are doing now…

You are succeeding in life. You just have to believe it.

 

 

Checking In With Your Heart Daily

by Madisyn Taylor

When we take time to check in with our heart,               each person we encounter can be seen as a                 fellow traveler in the journey of life.

Every day we experience a magical twilight between our dreams and waking state. During this brief period of time, our minds still remember that all things are possible. We can smoothly transition into our physical world without losing a sense of hope when we check in with our heart center first, before we even get out of bed. Our heart center is the link between body and spirit, instinct and inspiration. It doesn't take long to hold a thought of loving gratitude for the heart that beats within us. In a mere moment we can review all that we want to accomplish in the light of love. When we get into the habit of beginning our day from the heart, all of our activities glow with the infusion of conscious intent and all interactions are done with compassion.

We can restart our day right now by imagining how love and inspiration feel. As light glows from our heart center, radiating out through our bodies into the space around us, any feelings of stress or frustration seem to melt away. Now, we see each person we encounter as fellow travelers in the journey of life, and every activity becomes part of a spiritual partnership. As conscious participants in the cycle of giving and receiving, we share our light with others as we become enlivened ourselves, with our heart leading the way.

In the intersection where our body and soul meet, our physical heart beats in time with the rhythm of the universe. It does the physical work of supplying our body with life force without our attention, but for its spiritual work, we need to be conscious. When we concentrate on its rhythm and glowing light, we remember that we are spiritual beings having a human experience. Then we know that we can choose any time to check in with our heart center, and in doing so, experience the joy of being in love with life
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When we get stuck, think about the big picture, and how we can remain calm and balaned to attract more friends.   Are we alone because of habits, do you smile, do you get involved, or could it be because we did not Consider Others.

 

 

Considering Others

by Madisyn Taylor

     Every thought we think and every action we take             has an impact on the world around us.

Every thought we think and every action we take has an impact on the world around us. To be aware of this is to be conscious of our impact on the people in our lives. Sometimes we just want to do what we want to do, but considering the full ramifications of our actions can be an important part of our spiritual growth and awareness. At first, being more conscious requires effort, but once we have made it a habit, it becomes second nature. The more we practice this awareness of others, the more we find ourselves in easy alignment with our integrity.

Our thoughts are an important place to begin this practice because our thoughts are the seeds of our actions. It is not necessary or beneficial to obsessively monitor all our thoughts, but we can perhaps choose one thought or action per day and simply notice if we are in alignment with this experience of integrity. For example, we may find ourselves replaying a negative encounter with someone in our minds. We may think that this doesn't affect the person about whom we are thinking, but the laws of energy tell us that it does. When we hold someone negatively in our minds, we risk trapping them in negativity. If we were this person, we might wish for forgiveness and release. We can offer this by simply letting go of the negative thought and replacing it with a wish for healing on that person's behalf.

With regard to our actions, we may have something difficult to express to someone. Taking the time to consider how we would feel if we were in his or her shoes will enable us to communicate more sensitively than we would if we just expressed ourselves from our own perspective. When we modify our approach by taking someone else's feelings into account, we bring benefit to that person and ourselves equally. The more we do this, the more we reaffirm our integrity and the integrity of our relationship to the world.

 

 

 

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