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13 Tips To Follow In Your Early 20s
- Fail — Do this as often as you can. The successes will be all the sweeter.
- Get Uncomfortable — There’s a world out there you’ve never seen before. Do something uncomfortable every day. The more uncomfortable the better. You’ll see what I mean.
- Follow Your Joy — You’re smart enough to figure out the rest, but Life is too long to spend it insecurity. “You can fail at something you don’t want, so you might as well take a chance on doing what you love.” — Jim Carrey
- Consume Information — Learn as much as your brain can hold. In your free time, at school, college, and your job, keep consuming information. You’ll thank yourself sooner than you
A book a week is a good average. Shoot for more if you can.
- Love Honestly — When you love, do not hold anything back. Be completely and utterly yourself. Be blunt, direct, honest, and throw who you are at the other person. Let go of those who can’t handle it and keep those close that can.
- Don’t Look Back — Life is happening now and what’s in front of you is determined by what you do now. Looking in the rear-view mirror all the time will only lead to you crashing. We all make mistakes. Deal with them and move on.
- Invest In Yourself — Every investment you make in yourself is an investment that will last a lifetime. Literally.
- Stay Healthy — Avoid the bad stuff and get more of the good stuff. — Drugs, — Alcohol, — Sugars. + Exercise, + Greens, + Water.
- Work On Yourself — Not because you have to, but because being your own hero and becoming the person you look up to is something invaluable.
- Make Yourself Happy — Don’t rely on Parties, Drugs, Alcohol, Friends or any outside source to make you happy. Learn to be happy when nothing is going on.
- Be Accountable — Pay your bills on time, honor your own commitments and do the tasks you don’t want to do. Do everything that needs to get done as soon as you can. You’ll save yourself a lot of heartaches.
- Don’t Give Up On What Matters — The things that matter to you will test you. Success often comes right after you wanted to give up. Remember, it’s “Last Person Standing” when it comes to your dreams.
- Give Life Your All — Right now you are alive and here. Right now you decided to do what you’re doing. Remember this is your life and that it’s a waste of the moment to not give it everything you have.
15 Things About Starting Your First Job I Wish Someone Had Told Me, So I’m Telling You
It's ok to poop in the office bathroom.
But there were some things no career counselor, professor, sister, friend, or parent warned me about!!!!!! (Clearly, I've gone rogue on the exclamation point thing.)
My first year or so of work was filled with so much "Wait, is it just me, or..." and, "Well, I guess that's a thing" that I wanted to write a strongly worded letter to everyone who'd given me career advice because it all fell so short.
Every workplace and job is different, but in talking to people in my five and a half years of work experience, I've discovered that the things that really took me by surprise are pretty universal.
So instead of writing that strongly worded letter, I'm going to share them here as one giant subtweet/PSA instead:
- Always Arrive at Work on Time. ...
- Dress Appropriately. ...
- LISTEN, LISTEN, LISTEN... ...
- Don't Spread Gossip and Try Your Best to Avoid Becoming the Subject of It. ...
- Mind Your Manners. ...
- Learn Proper Telephone Etiquette. ...
- Find a Mentor
It determines your career trajectory. It can set you up for success if everything aligns or it can give you a slow start if for some reason it doesn't work out as expected. Knowing the different aspects to consider in your first job allows you to make a better decision on which opportunities to pursue.
70 Life Lessons I’ve Acquired Before Hitting 30
My favorite way to learn in life is from observing others
I’m still in my 20s, but 30 is very close.
Though I haven’t been on this earth very long, I see decade number 3 inching closer.
Over the years, I’ve learned many lessons and acquired a modest amount of wisdom, knowledge, and understanding along my life journey from personal experiences, but mostly from observing the failures and successes of others.
My 70 Life Lessons
Invest as early as possible, and never stop.
If you can’t handle a credit card responsibly, wait until you’re ready to own one; doing this will save you plenty of financial trouble.
Paying off debt is great, but make sure you invest while paying off your debt.
You can’t get time back.
Consensual sex is a shared experience.
It’s not something one person takes from one another.
Leave dead-end relationships.
Don’t wait around.
It’s not productive for anyone.
College is great, but it’s not necessary.
It doesn’t make you more valuable than someone else.
It doesn’t make you a better person.
It doesn’t necessarily make you a more intelligent person.
It doesn’t always make you more money than the non-college graduate.
Everyone doesn’t need to accept you.
Be extra comfortable with rejection.
As soon as someone gossips to you about someone else, know they are probably doing the same or will do the same and gossip about you, too.
Be careful not to divulge your secrets to gossipers.
Always be your number one priority because that is who you have to live with daily.
Holistic health includes emotional well-being, mental well-being, physical well-being, spiritual well-being, sexual well-being, professional well-being, and financial well-being.
If you neglect one, it will affect the others.
Don’t wait to travel the world.
Do it as soon as you can.
The sooner, the better.
You get paid according to your self-worth.
How much do you currently value yourself (not literally, professionally)?
You don’t have to say “yes” to every opportunity, every event, every person, and everything else. Boundaries are challenging to implement later in life, but the sooner you implement them, the more profound and easy your life experience will be.
If you don’t love your life, change it.
It’s okay to think differently than everyone else. Be an outlier.
Be the robot that has a glitch.
Most people follow the follower. However, if you want to be successful, you will increase your chances by doing what most people don’t do.
Being healthy is a life-long journey.
It takes consistent effort, and it’s not always easy.
Avoid addictions to things, people, circumstances, and substances.
Your confidence should be independent of your outer appearance, external influences, and other people.
Learn and implement the art of letting go of your daily life.
If you don’t understand investing or personal finance, educate yourself now so you won’t regret it later.
Enjoy time with yourself. If you have a great relationship with yourself, you’ll experience great relationships with others.
Give more than you receive from others.
Be independent financially, mentally, and emotionally.
There is nothing sweeter than the taste of independence.
You don’t have to live in the same country, state, city, or home for the rest of your life.
The new cars, the big houses, the name-brand clothes, and everything else that comes with money is nice but unnecessary, especially if you can’t afford it. Don’t be a fraud.
At the end of the day, it’s just you.
You don’t need to waste time and energy trying to impress people or live a life you’ve been taught to buy into.
Think about what you really want, not what everyone else wants.
Stretch, walk, eat raw veggies, and drink plenty of water daily.
Write your goals down, review your goals daily, and consistently work on your goals.
The best thing to do with a goal is to start and never stop. Modify your goals as needed, but keep going, and the magic will find you.
Be with someone you can fart in front of and laugh with about stupid sh*t.
Actively get to know yourself, and never stop discovering who you are.
Read and consistently learn new things.
Just because you are the same color as someone does not mean you can automatically identify or relate to their experiences.
Racism exists because of ignorance.
When you witness racism, racial hostility, or hate crimes, remember this verse “[…] forgive them, for they do not know what they do.”
Though it may seem people are conscious of their actions, they are usually unenlightened; they are encapsulated in a fog of ignorance.
Your likes will change, and sometimes there is nothing you can do about that except embrace acceptance.
Find someone you can simultaneously evolve with.
Because if only one person evolves in a relationship, it’s most likely not going to last.
And if it does last, it will potentially be filled with unhappiness, discontentment, and unfulfillment.
It feels so much better when you can say, “Yes, I can afford to buy the car I desire with CASH, but I choose not to.” than buying a car you can’t afford.
Be in control of your money and the materials you buy.
And be mindful about large purchases on quickly-depreciating assets.
Never have all of your money in one bank.
If you didn’t learn about money growing up, this does not grant you an excuse to fail at personal finance in the present day.
So take action and learn for yourself how to successfully manage your money and budget.
You don’t have to get married, and if you do want to get married, it doesn’t have to be at a certain age.
You don’t have to have or want kids. Parenting is not something everyone needs to sign up for.
Most people aren’t ready to have kids because they have yet to deal with their own issues.
Whatever issues you don’t deal with, your children will deal with.
Many people take the responsibility of having kids lightly.
It’s respectable for a person to say, “I’m not ready to have children because I’m still working on some internal issues.” than for someone to have children just because they want them or are running out of time on their “biological clock.”
Learn from others who are more successful, intelligent, and distinguished than you.
Don’t seek to learn all of your knowledge from your peers.
There are two kinds of people in life: doers and talkers.
All it takes to get started on a positive change is to start.
Celebrities are regular people.
Don’t be shocked or judgmental when they demonstrate human behavior.
Your social media following should never equate to your self-worth.
If you don’t want to attend a work event outside of working hours, don’t go.
And never apologize, feel bad, or care what your colleagues may or may not think about you.
Who gives a f*ck.
If you continue to neglect someone or something pretty soon, it will matter.
The less you desire, the more powerful you are.
Relationships can make or break you.
Choose your relationships wisely.
Habits can make or break you.
Choose your habits wisely.
Listen to people’s actions, not their words.
You attract other people like you.
So if you want to attract healthier and more successful people into your life, it all starts with you.
Codependence is destructive, limiting, and a time-waster.
Journal, do therapy or have someone or something that can be your objective sounding board for the different seasons of your life.
Your thoughts can free and elevate you or enslave and limit you.
Discipline is painful at first, but the more you implement it, the less resistance you will have towards living a more disciplined lifestyle.
You either deal with the pain of discipline upfront or the pain of regret from not being disciplined. Either way, you’re going to experience pain.
Are you worried about your karma?
Put more good and positive energy into the world.
If you’re intimidated by a subject, start by educating yourself on it.
The more you educate yourself on the subject, the less intimidated you will be by the subject.
You might even fall in love with the topic.
It happened to me more than twice.
Death and loss are inevitable.
I experienced four losses in less than four months.
Have positive anchors and outlets in place to help you get through the darkness.
It’s not going to always be easy, but whatever you do, don’t permanently lose yourself, your life, your passions, your sanity, your health, and your relationships in the process of healing.
Whether you accept it or not, life continues as if nothing happened.
Eventually, you must do the same, or life will be more challenging than it needs to be.
Sometimes you need to step away from a relationship to realize how healthy or unhealthy it is for your life.
There will be people you love dearly, but you cannot save them from themselves no matter what you do.
Love them and let them go, or you might go down with them.
Don’t leave the steak you have at home for a piece of fried chicken.
Always weigh the pros and cons of jeopardizing a healthy and invaluable relationship.
Whatever your demons are, consistently work on them.
Don’t take a break from self-development.
If you have a weakness, don’t assume you’ve mastered it.
Continuously master it.
If you stop working out, your muscles get weak.
The same applies to all other areas of your life.
If you have an addiction, think you have an addiction or multiple people tell you that you have an addiction, get help before it’s too late and your addiction destroys everything in your life.
Share your knowledge with others.
Don’t hoard knowledge.
The only way to better society as a collective whole is to share your learnings.
Family is not always blood.
Sometimes your family becomes people you meet along your life journey.
If you pre-order video games, technology (i.e., iPhone), clothes, shoes, and cars, then you can pre-order your financial freedom by investing.
If you don’t love yourself, you won’t be able to love others.
Furthermore, however much you love yourself will show up in the types of people you surround yourself with.
Are your relationships healthy or unhealthy?
Your relationships are a reflection of you.
If you don’t know something, it’s 100% okay to say you don’t know.
It’s actually empowering because now you have the opportunity to learn something.
The ego is the enemy and a hindrance to almost every area of your life.
Don’t allow your ego to get out of control; for if you do, it will be your demise in some form.
Children know a lot more about parenting than people give them credit for.
You don’t need to be a parent to have some understanding of what works and what doesn’t work.
Long-term relationships aren’t always peachy and creamy.
If the relationship is primarily good, get over it; reasonable amounts of conflict are normal.
Never stop reading.
Continue to prioritize deep learning.
Get comfortable re-reading and staying on a topic until it resonates with you.
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I Thought the Worst Thing in Life Was “Being Single” — I Was Wrong
As society proposes, being in a relationship isn’t the only way to be content with yourself.
Single is no longer a lack of options — but a choice.
A choice to refuse to let your life be defined by your relationship status but to live every day happily and let your “Ever After” work itself out.
It seems like the whole world is paired off, and you’re left standing on your own when you get questions like:
What’s wrong with you; why are you still single?
Why aren’t you dating anyone?
We are often told that being single is a bad thing.
We are social creatures, it is said, and we need other people “to be happy.”
But what if this equation isn’t true?
What if being single and alone is a good thing?
When I was in college, I spent a lot of time alone.
I loved going to movies, restaurants, long walks by myself, and I would spend hours in the library reading and studying.
I was happy then, and I didn’t feel like I needed anyone else to make me happy.
In fact, being alone allowed me to focus on my life and figure out who I was.
“I wish I could show you the luminance of your own being when you are alone.”
— Khalil Gibran
I am not insulting relationships.
I am not an anti-relationship person.
There is no harm in getting hitched if it makes you happy!
However, it isn’t the only way to be content with yourself, as society proposes!
I’ve fallen into the trap of forcing myself into a relationship due to societal pressure.
After the breakup, I’ve also suffered mentally and emotionally from thinking that if you are single, something is wrong with you, especially when most people around you seem to be coupling up!
My life and perception of the world changed when I realized the value of solitude.
The more you know yourself, the lesser you need/want anyone.
When I learned to love myself, I became happier and craved my own company more than anyone else’s.
It’s not that I don’t want/need people in my life.
But I am okay having a “single” status.
Being single doesn’t bother me, even when my friends and relatives make me look like an alien.
Here’s how I realized that being single is a superpower and can be harnessed to live a happy and contented life.
A relationship isn’t a goal of life.
It’s a part of life (if you want it to be).
Being single used to mean that nobody wanted you.
Now it means you’re pretty sexy and you’re taking your time deciding how you want your life to be and who you want to spend it with.
I realized the importance of time alone when I saw a close friend get into an unhealthy relationship. His girlfriend belittled him for no reason, and she demanded his time.
I realized that this was something similar I’d faced and how it could have been averted.
I feel like we’re living in a society where people don’t know what they want, and all the pressure to conform makes it difficult for single people.
Even if you want to be alone, there’s so much pressure from everyone else to find someone that you might cave in just to satisfy them.
This enforcement has to stop.
We must realize that it’s okay to be single, and we should respect ourselves enough to know what we want and need.
It’s not the end of the world if you’re alone right now.
One reason singles are so poorly treated is that our society emphasizes marriage as a goal.
There’s nothing wrong with wanting to find someone and settle down, but it shouldn’t be something everyone is expected to do.
The problem is that people think the only way to be happy or successful is to have a partner.
Doesn’t that advice/ proposal/expectation make your happiness dependent on anyone/anything?
“Until you get comfortable with being alone, you’ll never know if you’re choosing someone out of love or loneliness.” — Mandy Hale
Being single is a different pace of life.
It was a quiet Sunday afternoon, and I was flipping pages of a book in my room.
I had just finished a long shift at work, and all I wanted to do was relax.
But even though I was home, I couldn’t seem to calm down.
Every time I was alone, I felt this sense of dread.
Like there was something wrong with me because I didn’t want to date anyone.
I eventually put everything down and decided to go for a walk.
As I walked, I started to feel better.
The sun was shining, and the birds were singing.
And by the time I got back, I had calmed down.
I realized then that being alone isn’t as bad as you think.
It can be a great change of pace.
Sometimes you need some alone time to relax and recharge.
When you’re on your own, it’s easier to focus on yourself and your needs.
It can also give you some perspective.
You might find that other things in life make you happy, besides spending time with people.
I know what it’s like to feel lonely and depressed on your own.
But now, I’ve learned that being alone is a superpower.
You don’t need someone else to enjoy life, and sometimes “by yourself” is the best way to be.
Just because you’re home alone doesn’t mean there’s something wrong with you.
“I thought the worst thing in life was being single, it’s not!
The worst thing in life is to be with people that make you feel single.”
Don’t compare apples to oranges.
Being single is about celebrating and appreciating your own space that you’re in.
One of the biggest reasons why people feel bad about being single is because they compare themselves to those in relationships.
This is a mistake because you are not comparing yourself to your equals.
You are comparing yourself to people in a different situation than you are.
This illogical comparison makes you feel worse about being single because it makes you feel like you’re missing out on something.
It can be anything like sex, company, conversation, cuddle, etc., but the truth is none of these are wants or needs — they’re just an illusion society has created that you can’t live without.
Tom Hardy recently quoted:
“Remove sex from a relationship and you will discover that a lot of people have nothing to offer.”
You are the only one who knows what you want.
I know that it feels like everyone else is in a relationship but you.
This is not the case, though.
People often get into relationships just because it seems like everyone else wants one.
Being single can be just as fulfilling as being in a relationship if you know and love yourself as you are.
You’re not inadequate that any significant other can complete you.
Being single is not as bad as everyone thinks.
It can provide you with opportunities to be more self-aware and introspective while also allowing you to explore your interests without interference from others.
Being single means, you are in a different stage of your life than others.
You’re not alone, and you don’t need to feel lonely just because you’re home alone.
You can be happy and successful without a partner, but if you want one, then make it happen for yourself.
Don’t wait around for someone else to come along because this will prevent you from discovering the right person.
No matter what life you choose to live — being single or committed, always remember:
Just because you don’t fit the mold, doesn’t mean you’re wrong.
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