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Promise yourself this week.......
1. “I will be too busy watering my own grass to notice if yours is greener.”
2. “I will stop focusing on how stressed I am and remember how blessed I am. Complaining won’t change my reality, but a positive attitude
3. “I will remind myself that being positive does not mean ignoring the negative. Being positive means overcoming the negative. There’s a big difference
between the two.”
4. “There's also a big difference between empty fatigue and gratifying exhaustion. And life is short. As often as possible, I will invest in the
activities that move me.”
5. “I cannot control everything that happens; I can only control the way I respond to what happens. In my response is my power.”
6. “I will not get caught up in what could’ve been or should’ve been. I will look instead at the power and possibility of what is, right now.”
7. “When I find that I don’t have time for what matters, I will stop doing (and thinking about) things that don’t.”
The bottom line is, despite the real-world challenges you face, the biggest and most complex obstacle you will have to overcome daily personally is your mind. In other
words, you aren't responsible for everything negative that happens, but you ARE responsible for undoing the self-defeating thinking and behavioral patterns that these undesirable experiences
YES, YOU CAN THINK BETTER, which means you can tap into your inner strength and ultimately live better, one day at a time...
Truth be told, life will get better when YOU get better. Start investing in yourself mentally and physically. Make it a priority to learn and grow a
little bit every day. The stronger you grow and become, the better your life will feel in the long run.
How we attach meaning to events in our lives greatly influences our quality of life.
The meaning we assign to our experiences–– whether pleasant or distressing–– is a very powerful factor in determining the quality of our lives.
What we imagine events to mean will color how we feel about ourselves, the people in our lives, and the world at large.
If we want to encourage a positive outlook, well-being, a sense of self-confidence, and even trust in the universe, we can begin by assigning more peaceful, loving meanings to what we
Imagine, for example, that a friend fails to show up to a lunch date.
You have choices as to what you will make this experience mean for you.
You could allow being "stood up" to reinforce your feelings of unworthiness, you could begin to attack your friend's character mentally, or you could assume that something big must have happened
to cause them to miss the date--then, you might open yourself up to enjoying some relaxing time alone.
If you were recently laid off and are having difficulty finding a new job, consider that you might have hidden gifts or passions that were untapped in your regular career that you are now available
The universe might simply be moving you in a more fulfilling direction.
If you have recently lost a loved one, gained weight, lost money, or gotten in a fight with your partner, see if you can infuse the experience with meaning that feels loving and empowering and
opens a door for you to embrace life and the world a bit more.
When we begin to bring consciousness to what we are making things mean, we may be shocked at the messages we have been feeding ourselves all these years.
Try taking the reigns and begin assigning a kinder meaning to the events in your life and you will likely find yourself on a much more pleasant ride.
If other people’s priorities dominate your time, you will feel you are not living your truth. Set aside time to decide your priorities for the day ahead: tasks for work, exercise, and getting
Include time each day to take a small step forward on your personal goals.
This could be as simple as spending a few minutes researching a career change or practicing an art or sport that brings you joy.
Commit to those small tasks.
You’ll be surprised how simple it becomes to see those small changes add up.
6. Take a step back to gain perspective
When you find yourself in a rut, it makes sense to apply all your brainpower to come up with a solution.
But sometimes, that approach can get you nowhere and just lead to a cycle of overthinking.
Step Back and Reflect
When you hyperfocus on a problem, you can lose sight of who you are.
Sometimes you need to take a step back to see the bigger picture, removing yourself from a situation altogether.
You might need to take some time off, a day or a week, to do something fun.
Taking a break helps to listen to your heart and your gut, and the answers will flow naturally.
7. Recognize internal versus external influences
When you want to know how to be your authentic self, it helps to differentiate your internal motivations and external influences.
Internal motivators are those drives and desires that come from deep within.
I’m talking about heart dreams that push you to become a better person and pursue your goals.
External motivators refer to decisions you make based on external factors, like money, status, recognition, or expectations from other people.
When you take the time to distinguish between internal and external motivators, you can make decisions with more clarity.
Do I feel pressured by other people into taking this step? If so, by whom?
What do I want to accomplish with this goal?
Am I willing to fight through difficult obstacles to make this happen?
Is this truly what I want? Listen to your gut. When you tap into your intuition, you may already know the answer deep down.
Living your authentic life
When you’re authentic, you end up following your heart, and you put yourself in places and situations and in conversations that you love and that you enjoy.
You meet people that you like talking to.
You go places you’ve dreamt about.
And you end up following your heart and feeling very fulfilled.
A 2008 study published in the Journal of Counseling Psychology found that people who are more authentic feel happier and have higher self-esteem.
A 1997 study from the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology discovered that showing up authentically brings greater satisfaction and lower stress levels in a particular role, as a friend,
employee, or student.
2006 research from the Journal of Counseling Psychology shows that authenticity increases satisfaction in romantic relationships.
You live in the flow when you discover how to be your authentic self.
Creativity and abundance come to you effortlessly.
Consistently living up to your core values leads to self-confidence.
You trust yourself and know that you can overcome obstacles when pursuing your goals.
When you learn how to be real, you also create genuine relationships.
You express yourself honestly and, therefore, attract like-minded people who support you for who you really are.
People are often inauthentic because they believe it’s what others want to see.
They change their behavior to match a particular situation. Psychologists call this self-monitoring.
High self-monitors tend to act differently depending on the situation.
Low self-monitors behave similarly across different social environments.
There are pros and cons to both.
People who self-monitor too much can be viewed as fake or inconsistent.
But those who don’t self-monitor can seem inflexible or inappropriate.
Find a balance between staying true to yourself and behaving in a way that respects the social situation in a given context.
Living your authentic life can feel easier in one situation versus another.
So you’ll want to stay aware of how to be real, whether interacting with your boss or communicating with your partner.
Here are a few examples of putting authenticity into practice in your everyday life.
How to be your authentic self in any relationship
An authentic connection requires balancing your own needs with caring for your partner.
Practice healthy assertive communication, expressing your opinions and feelings, even when it feels vulnerable.
At the same time, actively listen to what your partner needs, taking a pause to respond rather than react emotionally.
How to be your authentic self at work
Professionalism doesn’t have to compromise authenticity.
When you “play the game” to get ahead, you can alienate yourself and create an atmosphere of competitiveness rather than collaboration.
A healthy work environment encourages open dialogue and the exchange of ideas while respecting diversity.
How to be your authentic self in a speech
It can feel challenging to open up to a large audience, whether at a party, delivering a work presentation, or presenting a TedTalk.
If you don’t want to seem stiff or rehearsed, make sure to prepare and know your topic inside and out.
Using stories or anecdotes from your own life will help you open up to your audience.
Plus, it’s easier to remember, and you won’t sound like someone reading a PowerPoint.
Ready to get real?
Remember, who you are at your core, the person that dances behind closed doors, that’s what the world wants.
It can take courage to learn how to be real.
But when you do, you set yourself free and begin to build a life that brings you joy and meaning.
It might not happen overnight, but you can get there.
And when you’re ready, we can help! Check out our complete resource on finding and living true to your authentic self; take Control.
7 Steps to Create the Life You Want to Live, Starting Today......
Do you want to learn how to create the life you
Amazing! This article will show you the direction to living a life full of passion and purpose while achieving important goals.
We all have dreams, goals, and aspirations we wish to achieve.
The tricky part: connecting the dots between what we want and how to achieve those things. Laying down a step-by-step framework provides a pathway between the two, revealing how to get what you want in life by embracing
So if you feel unclear about what you want and how to achieve it, read on.
If you already have a defined vision for your life, but you’re not sure how you’ll get there, these steps will help you with that,
Step 1: Find your purpose
The process of reinvention often begins with a sense of dissatisfaction. You feel something is going wrong in your life, but you don’t
know exactly what would be right.
The first step is to look inward — identifying your true self and the path that will bring you toward your ideal vision for your
I truly believe that every person has a purpose in life.
From a young age, outside pressure — whether from our friends, family, or society — causes us to lose touch with our inner passions and
what we really want out of life.
It takes some self-discovery and reflection to discover what you really love and connect that with how to serve others to help define
I suggest writing down some of your ideas and random thoughts to gain insight and help define your purpose. Ask yourself the following
questions to begin the process:
What would you do if you never had to earn another dollar?
What would you choose to do, even when it sucked?
What did you love doing as a child?
What makes you afraid of judgment?
What makes you angry?
Step 2: Set long-term goals to live a successful life
Long term goals refer to those dreams we hold in our hearts. They begin as aspirations and whispers of hope, but they become real when you decide to take action.
Long-term goals can relate to your career, like starting a business or changing your profession. You may seek out financial goals like
buying a house or paying for your child’s education. Perhaps you have personal aspirations in mind, like traveling the world or becoming a mentor.
They may seem out of reach at first, but we can achieve them with time, effort, and planning.
Here’s how to set tangible, measurable goals:
Break down long-term goals into baby steps: You need to know what specific steps to take each day, week, and month to achieve your goals.
Establish metrics of success: KPIs (key performance indicators) will help you stay on the right track.
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Keep things simple. Instead of pursuing too many goals at once, focus your energy on one area at a
Break down large goals. Creating small actionable steps helps make your dreams attainable — and seeing
continuous progress is one of the secrets how
to stay motivated while on the path to your big goals.
Surround yourself with supportive people. Staying motivated requires avoiding naysayers and seeking out
Practicing self-care and making sure you get enough sleep, nutrition, and rest.
Taking risks and learning to step outside of your comfort zone to try new things.
Learning all you can through podcasts, books, TedTalks, workshops… anything that will open your mind to new ideas.
Work with a coach or mentor to guide you when you lose direction and need to refocus.
Don’t give up! The push to live a successful life doesn’t happen overnight, but you will get there if you continue to focus.
Step 7: Become a badass in your new life
Becoming a badass means living a true, strong, and focused life.
It’s shaking off the expectations of others and your self-imposed limitations, so you can live the most authentic and fulfilled version
of your life.
As you read through the steps in this article, you’ll see that they’re each designed to help you get what you want — not in a generic
successful life, but your unique badass life.
And it all starts with uncovering your true identity:
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1. Do your best to “be where you are.” Because most of the time, the secret to happiness and peace is letting the present situation be what it is,
instead of what you think it should be, and making the best of it.
2. Never regret the kindness and respect you have shown to the wrong people. Your behavior says everything about you, and their behavior says more than enough about
them. Carry on... with grace.
3. Practice letting go. You simply don't need to attend every argument you're invited to. Give yourself the space to value your time, genuine relationships, and
peace of mind, above all. Because little else will matter more in the long run.
Truth be told, the ability to not overreact, or take things too personally, keeps your mind clear, your heart at peace, and you fully composed in otherwise
uncontrollable situations. Calmness is a human superpower. You know this is true, so ask yourself:
"How can I respond from a place of clarity and strength today, rather than continuing to react in anger or frustration to the painful experiences I've been forced to
Think about that question for a moment. Sit with it...
Every time you are tempted to react in the same old way, pause for a few seconds, take a few deep breaths, and make space for a healthy change of state—for something new
It's time to consciously redirect your focus by taking it away from something unchangeable that drags you down, and instead zero it in on something
small and actionable that moves you forward in the present moment.
Nothing is stopping you right now—nothing is holding you back but your own thoughts and reactions to “how life is.”
Of course, you may not be responsible for everything that happened to you in the past, or everything that's happening to you today, but you need to be
responsible for undoing the thinking and behavioral patterns these circumstance create.
It’s about thinking better so you can ultimately live better.
The key is to understand that no matter what happens, you can choose your response, which dictates pretty much everything that happens next.
Truly, the greatest weapon you have against anxiety, negativity and stress is your ability to pause, breathe, and choose one present response over another—to train your
mind to make the best of what you’ve got in front of you, even when it’s far less than you expected.
Yes, YOU CAN change the way you think and respond. And once you do, you can master a new way to be.
The bottom line is that life will get better when YOU get better.
Start investing in yourself mentally and physically.
Make it a priority to learn and grow a little bit every day by building positive rituals and sticking to them.
The stronger you grow and become, the better your life will feel in the long run.
4 Principles for Dealing With the Bad Days
With ‘side hustles’ on the rise, it’s important we look after ourselves
It’s not about avoiding negative emotions or apathy.
It’s not about reassurance or dismissing the gravity of a situation, of course not.
This isn’t an argument for smiling through the pain, I’m all for having a cry and saying the world needs to go in the bin.
I do it often.
I suppose this is about just after that.
When the rain stops and the clouds part.
Just then, that moment when you have the hope that the sun is about to come out.
It’s at that moment you look around, and you say, you know what, things have been awful lately but, actually, here’s some good that has come out of it all.
Principle 3: After the rain, look for the sun.
4. Understanding burnout and your triggers
You are likely burning out because of the mental workout you're enduring.
“One hundred percent of the fatigue of the sedentary worker in good health is due to psychological factors, by which we mean emotional factors.”
- Dr. A. A. Brill
My burnout will be different from yours because although we collide on both being humans, my life will have been wildly different from yours.
My triggers will be your levers and vice versa.
My take is not to recommend that one size fits all and that if you simply follow these four steps, you’ll never have a bad day again, nope. Instead, my theory is that if you work out your
triggers, you’ll be able to avoid them.
The best way I’ve found to do this is to look backward.
From doing a bit of a self-assessment, my triggers seem to be idolizing people who have become uber-successful.
Once I start going down the rabbit hole of YouTubers' yearly income report videos, I know I’m in for a few bad days.
So I avoid them. The same is true for eating poorly a few too many days in a row, not working on my side projects, and spending too much time internalizing my life rather than living it. But those
are just mine.
Principle 4: Work out your triggers.
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The bad days will come.
Part of the problem is thinking about anything other.
When they do, though, expecting them is the first step in accepting them.
Fearing them will only make their appearance worse.
It doesn’t have to be all doom and gloom, though.
There is good in the bad if you care to look closely enough, and you can reduce the number of those bad days by simply understanding who you are and what triggers them.
We can’t perform our every action consciously. Instead, our brain performs tasks through the subconscious part, and we just do them without thinking much.
1. Create A Morning Ritual
Have a morning ritual for yourself. Practice waking up early. It makes you prepare for the day.
Make time for exercise.
Make time for meditation.
The more you practice it, the better your life gets.
2. Social Media Detox
Keep track of the time when you indulge in your phone. The best way is to keep a timer when you use your phone.
Spend an hour without touching your phone/tv, and notice how much you enjoy it.
3. Have Non-Negotiables
It means you have to complete the tasks that you have assigned to yourself. My non-negotiables are.
20 min Walk.
10 min Meditation.
Cold Showers. 10 min Writing.
No screen time an hour before bed.
No food 2 hours before bed.
4. If Something Takes 5 Minutes Or Less, Do It
If you can do something that takes less than 5 minutes to complete, do it immediately.
Getting those simple tasks done right away prevents a lot of clutter and stress later on.
5. Get Enough Rest
Without enough rest, you can't enjoy or improve your life.
To get all the things done as expected, you must get enough rest for your body and mind.
Not getting enough rest makes you cranky and reduces your ability to concentrate.
6. Follow The 80/20 Rule
Invest most of your energy and time in those specific tasks that create a big impact and maximize your productivity.
20% of the tasks yield 80% of the results.
7. Plan Your Day The Night Before
Get everything ready you need for the morning.
Things seem simpler when everything is planned and handy.
It will relax your mind before getting to bed, and you will sleep peacefully because you have sorted out your work according to your priorities.
After spending the last year researching and writing my new book, Outsmart Your Smartphone: Conscious Tech Habits for Finding Happiness, Balance, and Connection IRL, I'm now convinced that it's harder for us to be our true selves now, in the technology
We are constantly balancing inner and outer aspects of ourselves in order to fit in better, to become more successful, or to find love.
We are driven to find “our place” in society and want to be respected for who we truly are and what we have to contribute.
Many of us are propelled even further, desiring to know and live our purpose, find deeper meaning in our lives, and feel the fulfillment that comes with becoming more authentic.
But at the same time, we live in a society that values superficiality, strives for perfection, and defines success as by the dollars in our bank account and not by how well we live our values every day.
So how are we to be authentic in spite of the messages that try to convince us to be someone else?
Why Overcoming Inauthenticity Is So Hard
We were molded as children by our parents, teachers, religions, peers, and society to "fit in."
As a result, we developed beliefs, thoughts, emotions, and behaviors that keep us acting in the ways we were taught to act—not in the ways that make us feel like our authentic selves.
This version of ourselves can be thought of as the "Adaptive Self"—the self that prioritizes fitting in, getting along, and generally doing what we're told.
This self is not without value and purpose—it helps us be functioning members of society.
But if you're feeling inauthentic, the Adaptive Self is running your life.
For most of us, our Authentic Self is buried deep in our unconscious, where it remains hard to identify and let out.
How to Develop Authenticity
Here are some tips to help you find and express your authentic self.
1. Observe yourself objectively to develop authenticity. Learn to observe yourself like a fly on the wall.
Watch yourself as you live in the present moment, observing how your “Adaptive Self” behaves, what it believes, reacts under
pressure, and responds to challenges.
Practice noticing which of these responses feel authentic and which ones feel inauthentic.
By identifying which responses are adaptive vs authentic, you can notice the falseness and see the glimmers of truth underneath.
2. Examine family belief systems to develop authenticity. Most people were raised in some sort of "family-style" environment during their
earliest, most vulnerable years.
Think back to episodes in your childhood that led you to stop
being your authentic self and instead adopt some other way of existing in this world.
We can learn a lot about our authentic selves by examining where our behaviors come from.
3. Open a dialogue between the Adaptive Self and the Authentic Self. Invite the two aspects of yourself—the Adaptive Self and the Authentic
Self—to have a discussion as part of a meditation or thought
Respectfully introduce both: Thank the Adaptive Self for helping you function through some difficult and confusing times, and thank the Authentic Self for helping you feel whole, real, and
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Now invite each part of yourself to share.
Ask a question mentally while urging each side to express itself fully, and then listen patiently to the responses.
Encourage dialogue so that you may comprehend both points of view.
Try to be open to what both sides have to say, as they may reveal things you're not expecting.
For example, the Authentic Self may be afraid of rejection and, therefore afraid to come forward.
Or your Adaptive Self may be caretaking, trying to protect you from
feeling hurt in the ways you've been hurt in the past.
These parts of ourselves are running our lives this way for a reason.
In this exercise, try to figure out what those reasons are.
This may help you understand why you act the way you do, so you can decide if you truly want to act differently.
4. Identify discrepancies to develop authenticity. Try to become aware of discrepancies between your actions and your beliefs.
If you catch yourself making a racist, sexist, or otherwise hurtful remark, ask yourself whether you really believe the words you speak.
Are you just saying these things because someone else taught you to?
Remember, the Adaptive Self just wants to fit in.
So it can often act in ways that are inconsistent with our authentic selves.
This is normal. But if we want to be more authentic, we have to notice address the discrepancies between our beliefs and our actions.
If you acknowledge what is true for you now, then you can better live your life according to the needs of your Authentic Self.
But that kind of authenticity requires self-awareness and
5. Examine your doubts to develop authenticity. When exploring your Authentic Self, you may feel unsure of how to go about it.
You may question whether changing what feels deeply ingrained within you or is invisible to you is possible. So keep an eye out for feelings of doubt.
Doubts can be like breadcrumbs that lead you to your Authentic Self.
If you doubt something—a thought, behavior, emotion, or experience—reflect for a moment to find whatever is underneath.
Is your Authentic Self trying to tell it to "stop it?"
6. Develop the courage to face your fears. Humans tend to be most comfortable with what is familiar.
The unfamiliar is often challenging, at least at first.
Examining your inner core beliefs can be like exploring a foreign landscape you are unfamiliar with. So when you touch upon a disconnect between your Adaptive and Authentic Selves, your heart may
race or your hands could get clammy.
You may naturally feel afraid to look too deeply into yourself for fear of what
you might find.
Our Authentic Self often has a lot of fear, sadness, and anger—our true selves were
hurt and that's why the Adaptive Self took over.
However, the difficult secrets we hide from ourselves make us who we are.
So as much as possible, and as slowly as you need to, courageously explore the truth of what makes you who you are.
Identifying, experiencing, accepting, and letting go of these buried emotions is exactly what fuels your Authentic Self.
7. Explore your values. Integrity, ethics, and living our personal values is an effective ways to live more
The trouble comes when we are so far from our Authentic Selves that we do not even know what our values are.
8. Love yourself and have compassion for others to develop authenticity. Because it takes self-love for our Authentic Selves to emerge,
embedding more love and compassion within yourself and your life is helpful.
One way to increase your self-love is to set aside some time to take numerous deep breaths each day.
You can add this to an existing meditation practice if you like.
Slowly deepen your breathing, and when you are feeling fully relaxed and receptive, call love to yourself from your
environment. Imagine each breath infused with loving energy.
Invite love to enter your body via your breath, whether as balls of energy, bursts, or rays of light and love.
Draw love into your lungs and disperse it throughout your body, or send it directly to your Authentic Self.
Keep breathing consciously until you feel the lightning and lifting energy of these "love breaths."
Once filled with love, share some of it with friends or loved ones.
Sending love to others tends to expand the love within!
9. Recognize that developing authenticity takes time. Examining our true selves is a process—perhaps a life-long process—because we are
ever-evolving human beings.
It takes quite a while to winnow out beliefs and behaviors that no longer serve you and replace them with more authentic actions.
But with some effort, you'll soon find more genuine alignment with your true self.
10. Release patterns and beliefs that no longer serve you. When you do come across a thought, emotion, or action that doesn't
represent your Authentic Self, work on letting it go.
Visualization is a good tool for this.
You can place the thought, emotion, or action within a bubble or a balloon and let it rise until it disappears.
Or if you are more hands-on, you can write it on a piece of paper, cross it out, and crumple up the paper—a physical action that helps your subconscious understand your intentions.
11. Ask yourself what you truly believe. Another proactive approach is to simply start with pad and paper (or it can be a mental exercise) and
begin listing your beliefs about yourself, beliefs like "I am not good enough," "Nobody loves me," or "I'm stupid, fat, ugly, etc."
Then examine each one, expand upon it, and think back to how and when you acquired that belief, who gave it to you, why you continue to hold on to it, and whether it represents "the authentic you"
that you want to be today.
Now create positive alternatives to those negative beliefs, such as "I am good enough," or "I am drawing to myself a partner who loves and respects me," or "I am perfect just as I am,"
12. Take it slow to develop your authenticity. Sometimes we are shocked by what we discover within our subconscious that has been hidden.
Such sudden new raw awareness can disrupt our lives in unexpected ways.
So use moderation and proceed cautiously. When you discover a belief or memory
that has been thwarting your authenticity, allow a few days for you to adjust to your new realizations and view them with self-compassion.
How to Maintain Authenticity
Now that you've got a better sense of how to be authentic, here's how to stay authentic.
13. Make telling the truth a habit. This is such a simple suggestion and yet it makes a huge difference!
It's so easy to fall into a pattern of lying for convenience's sake—to
further some agenda, cover up embarrassment, or save face.
These seem like "little white lies" that do not hurt anything.
However, the more little lies we tell, the less we accept our Authentic Self, a self that is flawed. By being honest, we tell our subconscious that our imperfections are acceptable, therefore,
we are acceptable.
14. Make statements and decisions consciously. In this hectic world, we are making decisions all the time.
Unfortunately, many of these decisions are made hastily at the moment with no forethought.
So slow down and make sure each of your decisions supports your Authentic Self.
And don't let anyone push you into making a consequential decision before you are ready.
15. Speak your truth. When you speak your truth authentically, you show others that you are responsible, can be trusted, and trust others
enough to show your genuine, vulnerable self.
The response from others is often positive, which helps make it easier for you to continue being authentic.
16. Develop yourself in authentic ways. I can't tell you how many times I've been given advice on how to advance in my career—advice that is not suited to my Authentic Self.
And I get lost whenever I follow this advice, ignoring my Authentic Self.
Your goals may also fail to fit the typical "upward trajectory" or "career
ladder" often promoted by society.
So as you pursue your goals, pause to ask yourself are you pursuing the right goal, in the right way, for you?
If not, you'll likely have a hard time enjoying either the process or the outcome.
17. Continue to monitor yourself. If we can keep a behind-the-scenes monitor that remains self-aware at all times, we will be in a position to
catch those "off moments" when we veer away from our Authentic Selves.
Even if we have no time to examine what's going on in the moment, we can note it down for review later when we have time.
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18. Strive to improve yourself. If you want to progress, you will need to develop a growth mindset and learn from each lesson presented to you before you can move
on to higher insight.
If you do not do your daily homework of paying attention to what life
has to teach you, you will continue to get the same lessons over and over until you learn them.
By being open to new knowledge, you can grow more quickly and find the best routes for you to achieve sustained authenticity.
19. Listen to your inner guidance orintuition. People call inner guidance many things—the soul, god, intuition,
Tao, and so forth.
Following this inner guidance is key to discovering the Authentic Self.
Only when our Adaptive Self silences the inner guidance do we lose track of who we really are. So try to keep an open mind and ear for the guidance that you hold within you.
20. Find your life purpose.
Authenticity and purpose are closely linked:
A deep sense of purpose can help you to express your authenticity, while developing authenticity will often help you discover your purpose!
You may discover the courage of your convictions and want to burst forward with a passion for accomplishing some worthy goal that moves you deeply enough to champion some particular sort of