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Following Nature's Cycles

by Madisyn Taylor

We cannot have harmony and balance in our lives, if we forget to include the earth and natural rhythms in our lives.

Nature, in all its myriad forms, is the most powerful force on earth. Although mankind has tried, we have not found a way to match its awesome power, but we have found ways to work with it. Science often confirms the wisdom of the ancients who observed and then harnessed nature's rhythms and cycles to shape and enhance their lives. We can begin to do this in our own lives by first paying attention to our own natural rhythms, such as when we wake or when we feel the need to sleep. If possible, we may want to try to rise and sleep with the sun or live without electricity for a weekend and then monitor how we feel. We can make the choice to eat the foods of the seasons and to seek fresher, locally grown, or organic produce whose own cycles have not been tampered with by technology.

We can create harmony in our homes by making a smooth transition between our indoor and outdoor spaces. By bringing some of the outdoors inside and taking some of our indoor décor out, we can simultaneously enjoy nature and the comforts of home and the feeling that our living space is expanded. Then, whether inside or out, we can lounge on a comfortable piece of furniture and feel the wind, inhale the scent of deeply breathing plants, listen for the many songs of life, and observe the moon and the stars. As we do this more often, we may find ourselves noticing the pull of the full moon on bodies of water, as well as the water in bodies, or the music of the night acting as a lullaby.

When we seek balance in our lives, we want to balance not just our roles in life but also the natural elements in our spaces. Having representations of the elements in the colors, shapes, and textures of our homes will appeal to our mind, body, and spirit. We may find that when we sync ourselves with nature's rhythms, we ride the waves of energy to feel more in harmony with life and the world around us.

 

 

 

Your Positive Attitude

 

A positive attitude makes you happier and more resilient, it improves your relationships, and it even increases your chances of success in any endeavor.

In addition, having a positive attitude makes you more creative and it can help you to make better decisions. To top it all off, there are studies that show that people with a positive attitude live longer than their sourpuss counterparts.

Below you’ll discover 21 ways to create and maintain a positive attitude.

 

1. Have a Morning Routine.

How you start your morning sets the tone for the rest of the day. Make sure that you have an attitude-boosting morning routine that puts you in a good mood so that you can start the day off right.

 

2. Carry An Attitude of Happiness With You.

Instead of waiting for external things to make you happy, be happy, and then watch how that influences the things that go on around you.

That is, instead of telling yourself that first something good has to happen, and then you’ll be happy, be happy first. Happiness is an attitude, not a situation.

 

3. Relish Small Pleasures.

Big pleasures—graduation, getting married, being promoted, having your book published—come too infrequently. Life is made up of tiny victories and simple pleasures.

With the right mental attitude, watching the sunset, eating an ice cream cone, and walking barefoot on the grass are all you need to be filled with joy.

 

4. Smile.

Smiling will give you an instantaneous attitude boost.

Try smiling for a minute while you think of a happy memory or the last thing that made you smile.

Smiling releases endorphins and serotonin, also known as the feel-good hormones.

It’s a lot easier to adopt a positive attitude when the chemicals being released by your body are conducive to well-being.

 

5. Upload Positivity to Your Brain.

Read books with a positive message, listen to music with uplifting lyrics, and watch movies in which the protagonist’s optimism helps him/her to overcome obstacles and win, despite the odds.

Change your attitude for the better by uploading as much positivity into your brain as you possibly can.

 

6. Take Responsibility.

At any moment your attitude can be that of a victim or of a creator.

The first step you need to take to shift from victim-mode to creator-mode is to take responsibility. Here’s the attitude of a creator:

  • I create my life.

  • I am responsible for me.

  • I’m in charge of my destiny.

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7. Have a Zen Attitude.

Think of life not as something that’s happening to you, but as something that’s happening for you.

Look at any challenging situation, person, or event as a teacher that’s been brought into your life to teach you something.

The next time you find yourself thinking, “Why is this happening to me?” choose to have a Zen attitude, instead. Ask yourself, “What am I supposed to learn or gain from this”? or “How will this help me grow and become a better, more enlightened being?”

 

8. Be Proactive.

A reactive person allows others and external events to determine how they will feel.

A proactive person decides how they will feel regardless of what may be going on around them.

Be proactive by choosing your attitude and maintaining it throughout the day, regardless of what the day may bring.

 

9. Change Your Thoughts. Positive thoughts lead to a positive attitude, while negative thoughts lead to a negative attitude.

Changing your attitude is as easy as hitting the “pause” button on what you’re thinking and choosing to think different thoughts.

 

10. Have a Purpose.

Having a purpose in life gives you a fixed point in the horizon to focus on, so that you can remain steady amid life’s vicissitudes and challenges.

Bringing meaning and purpose into your life—knowing why you are here—will do wonders for your attitude.

 

11. Focus On the Good.

In order to have a positive attitude, focus on the good. Focus on the good in yourself, the good in your life, and the good in others.

 

12. Stop Expecting Life to Be Easy.

The truth is, life gets tough at times. For all of us. It can even be painful.

But you’re brave and resourceful, and you can take it.

Know that sometimes things won’t be easy, and adopt the attitude that you have what it takes to deal with anything that life throws at you.

 

13. Keep Up Your Enthusiasm.

Enthusiastic people have a great attitude toward life.

Have a list of ways to lift your enthusiasready for those times when you feel your zest for life draining away. Being enthusiastic will help you maintain the attitude that life is good and that you’re lucky to be alive.

 

14. Give Up On Having An Attitude of Entitlement.

Think of the parable “Who Moved My Cheese?” by Spencer Johnson.

Two little mice and two miniature people are put in a maze. Here’s what happens:

  • When the mice discover that the cheese isn’t where it’s supposed to be, they immediately get to work on finding another piece of cheese.

  • The two miniature people, instead, get angry that the cheese has been moved. They waste time expressing outrage and blaming each other.

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Stop demanding that things be handed to you. Your attitude at all times should be the following:

 

  • It’s up to me to get what I want.

  • Good things come to those who work hard.

  • I adapt to change easily and quickly.

  • I keep going even when things get tough.

 

15. Visualize.

When things aren’t going your way, keep a positive attitude by visualizing yourself succeeding and achieving your goals.

When Nelson Mandela was incarcerated—in a tiny cell that was just 6 feet wide–he kept his hopes up by visualizing himself being set free.

Mandela once said, “I thought of the day when I would walk free.

Over and over again, I fantasized about what I would like to do.” By visualizing his release he was able to maintain a positive attitude, even when he found himself under extraordinarily difficult circumstances.

 

16. Limit Your Complaints.

Whining about anything and everything is not conducive to a positive attitude.

When you complain you’re saying negative things about a person, place, or event, without offering a solution to fix the situation.

Instead of complaining, do the following:

  • Remove yourself from the situation.

  • Shift your perspective about the situation.

  • Offer a possible solution.

  • Accept that there’s nothing you can do to change the situation and that complaining about it just fosters negativity.

Constantly complaining leads to a bad attitude. So stop complaining.

Instead, start looking for solutions or accept what cannot be changed 

 

17. Watch Your Words.

Use positive words when you talk to yourself.

Studies have found that positive self-talk can boost your willpower and help you psych yourself up when you need to get through a difficult task.

In addition, it can calm you down when you’re worried or anxious. If you want to change your attitude from “I can’t do this” or “I’m going to fail”, to “I’ve got this” or “I’m going to do great”, change your self -talk. 

 

18. Use The Power of Humor.

People who know how to laugh at themselves and at life’s absurdities have a great attitude.

Your sense of humor is a powerful tool, and you can use it to lift your mood and enhance your emotional state at any time. 

When something goes wrong, ask yourself, “What’s funny about this?”

A humorous perspective will have a positive effect on your attitude. 

 

19. Use Gratitude to Improve Your Attitude.

When you find yourself focusing on what’s wrong in your life, what you don’t have, or what you’re missing out on, adjust your attitude by feeling gratitude. 

Studies show that having an attitude of gratitude is beneficial for every aspect of your life: being grateful improves your health, your mood, your relationships, your career satisfaction, and on, and on.

If you need an attitude lift simply think of all the things that you have to be grateful for.  

 

20. Develop an Attitude of Curiosity.

The best way to approach any situation is to be open to what you can learn from it.

That is, be curious.Curiosity gives you a present-moment orientation which is similar to mindfulness.

Being curious about a situation allows you to experience it more fully.

In addition, curiosity will help you to approach uncertainty in your daily life with a positive attitude.

 

 21. Seek Out Others With a Positive Attitude.

A positive attitude is contagious.

When you feel that you need an attitude boost, find someone with a great attitude and look for an excuse to hang out with them.

Their attitude can’t help but rub itself off on you and you’ll be able to face the world with renewed optimism.

 

Conclusion

John Mitchell once said the following: “Our attitude toward life determines life’s attitude toward us.” The 21 tips above will help you to keep a positive attitude at all times. Live your best life by having a great attitude.

 

 

3 Great Ways to Force Yourself to Be More Grateful (and a Little Happier)

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3 Great Ways to Feel More Grateful (and a Lot Happier)

 

At the end of the day, before you close your eyes, breathe deeply, appreciate where you are, and be grateful for what you have. Life is good.

 

Most of us have amazing family members, friends, and other loved ones who love us back. Learn to appreciate what a gift that is. Most of us have good health, which is another gift. Most of us have eyes, with which to enjoy the amazing gifts of sunsets and nature and beauty all around us. Most of us have ears, with which to enjoy music–one of the greatest gifts of them all.

 

We may not have all these things, because we can’t have everything, but we certainly have plenty to be grateful for. To an extent, we know this already, and yet we forget. It happens to the best of us.

 

Sometimes Marc and I get so caught up pursuing the next big thing that we forget to pause and appreciate the things we have, and the things we’ve experienced, learned and achieved along the way. And the most tragic part of this is that our happiness takes a major hit.

 

The Science of Gratitude and Happiness

 

As human beings, when we aren’t grateful for what we have, we aren’t capable of being happy.

This is not just some self-improvement cliché either. It’s been scientifically proven. For example, researchers in numerous positive psychology studies (like this one) have split study participants into two groups and instructed one group of study participants to reflect on the little things they are grateful for at the end of each day, while the other group just goes about their normal routines. Then, after several weeks, both groups are interviewed, and it becomes clear that the first group enjoyed considerably greater life satisfaction than the other group during that time period.

Why does this happen?

The simplest explanation is that forcing ourselves to focus on thoughts and actions related to gratitude, regardless of circumstances, helps our brains develop positive emotions. In one notable study, researchers asked participants to smile forcibly while thinking of something specific they’re grateful for. They found that this consistently stimulated mental activity associated with positive feelings and emotions.

The bottom line for most of us (severe depression and other related mental illnesses notwithstanding) is pretty clear: when we force ourselves to be grateful by making gratitude a part of our daily routines, we actually feel a lot happier.

 

How to Force Yourself to Be More Grateful

 

In the end, the secret to being grateful is no secret. You choose to be grateful. Then you do it again and again. If you forget, begin again.

There are, however, three specific gratitude strategies that Marc and I often cover with our students and coaching clients. We’ve literally seen these strategies work wonders for people over the past decade (and we practice them ourselves too). I encourage you to implement them, gradually, one at a time, into your life. And if you need further assistance, we’re here.

 

1. Practice a private, evening gratitude ritual.

 

Here’s a super simple, five-minute, evening gratitude ritual:

Every evening before you go to bed, write down three things that went well during the day and their causes. Simply provide a short, causal explanation for each good thing.

That’s it. We spend tens of thousands of dollars on expensive electronics, big homes, fancy cars, and lavish vacations hoping for a boost of happiness. This is a simple, free alternative, and it works.

If you begin this ritual this evening, you just might be looking back on today many years from now, as the day when your whole life changed.

 

2. Practice giving thanks publicly.

 

Although gratitude comes from within, the public expression of gratitude is important too. In his best selling book, “Authentic Happiness,” the renowned positive psychologist Martin Seligman gives some practical suggestions on how to do this. He recommends that we ritualize the practice of expressing gratitude in letters to friends, family, coworkers, and other people who we interact with in our community.

 

Marc and I have put this gratitude strategy into practice in our own lives by ritualizing it into our morning routine. We write a short email, text message, or letter each morning to one specific person, mindfully thanking and praising them for what they do that makes our lives a little brighter. (Marc and I build mindful gratitude rituals with our students in the “Happiness and Positive Living” module of Getting Back to Happy.)

 

3. Practice reflecting on the little things you are grateful for.

 

It’s fairly easy to remember to be grateful for the big and obvious things that happen—a new addition to the family, a great promotion at work, a significant business breakthrough, etc. But the happiest people find ways to give thanks for the little things too. Ponder these perspective-shifting points from an article Marc wrote a while back:

  • You are alive.
  • You didn’t go to sleep hungry last night.
  • You didn’t go to sleep outside.
  • You had a choice of what clothes to wear this morning.
  • You haven’t spent a minute in fear for your life.
  • You know someone who loves you.
  • You have access to clean drinking water.
  • You have access to medical care.
  • You have access to the Internet.
  • You can read.

Be honest: when was the last time you were grateful for simply being alive, or going to sleep with a full belly? More specifically, think of all the little things you experience—the smell of a home-cooked meal, hearing your favorite song when it randomly comes on the radio, seeing a marvelous sunset, etc.

 

Pay attention, and be grateful.

 

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The Truth About Forgiveness (It’s not what you think!)

Actual thoughts, action and recomendations by  Kari Joys MS

 

A dear friend was asking me about forgiveness the other day. She asked ‘What’s wrong with me that I can’t forgive people? Even though I’ve tried to forgive them many times, why do I just keep thinking about what happened again and again?”

 

The Truth about Forgiveness

 

As we talked, I realized that this was a conversation that you might like to hear, too. Nowadays, everyone is writing and talking about the need for forgiveness, but why is it so hard to do?

 

What is Forgiveness?

 

The Encarta Dictionary defines forgiveness as “the act of pardoning somebody for a mistake or wrongdoing.” Forgiveness is not condoning a wrong that has been done to you. It’s simply letting go of the emotional pain of what happened so that you are free to move forward in your life without your past still holding you back and dragging you down.

 

In 1709, Alexander Pope, who was a well-known English poet, wrote An Essay on Criticism. In it he wrote the famous words “To err is human; to forgive, DIVINE!” Alexander Pope had obviously experienced what he was writing about. True forgiveness lifts you to a higher level of consciousness, where love, peace, joy, harmony and beauty become the norm in your life.

 

How to Forgive

 

Many of us in our spiritual training learned the words of the ‘Lords Prayer,’ which in the traditional version said, “Forgive us our debts as we forgive our debtors.” As a young person, I always knew that I SHOULD forgive, but I struggled for many years with HOW to forgive.

 

The person who was hardest for me to forgive in my younger years was my father, who was physically and verbally abusive to me and to other members of my family. His professed spiritual beliefs felt very hypocritical to me when I compared what he taught to how he actually treated us.

 

When I asked respected teachers how I could forgive him, they told me forgiving others was simply a decision. They said I could simply decide to forgive him and let go of the past. I did my best to follow their instructions, but I found that I had to forgive him again and again in the process of my growth. There were so many ways that he had influenced my life and impacted me with low self-esteem and self-worth.

 

Over time, as I worked through the feelings of how he had affected me, I grew to a point where I could feel that I was truly a good person and that I had value and worth as a human being. I remember how freeing it felt when I first learned the famous quote from the ancient ‘Desiderata,’ which says, “You are a child of the Universe, no less than the trees and the stars. You have a right to be here!”

 

As I regained my sense of SELF that my father had stolen from me, it became much easier to let go of the emotional pain and forgive him for what he had done. Although he never understood how he had affected my life, I eventually came to a place of compassion and understanding for him.

 

Forgiveness or Denial?

 

Later, as a psychotherapist, I came to understand that there’s a real problem with many traditional teachings about forgiveness. I learned that because how we are treated as children does affect our self-esteem and self-worth, deciding to forgive too soon can actually become a form of denial.

 

Many clients who have walked through my counseling doorway have told me that their parents were neglectful or abusive, but went on to say “It’s not a problem anymore, because I forgave them.” They saw no reason for talking about their childhood, because “It’s in the past.”

 

What I’ve found is that when you decide to forgive from your mind, and you don’t give yourself the chance to process the feelings of how you were treated in childhood; you’ll continue to UNCONSCIOUSLY blame yourself or believe that what happened was your fault.

If you were treated abusively or disrespectfully back then, you will probably continue to allow disrespect and abuse in your current life. The great psychologist Carl Jung said, “”Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate.”

 

The emotional patterns you learned from the way you were treated generally continue in your adult life until you become aware of what you are doing and why you are doing it. If you want to stop those patterns from constantly replaying today, you need to let yourself feel the emotional pain of what happened in childhood and release it.

 

True forgiveness happens naturally when your authentic feelings are processed and released.

 

When It’s Hard to Forgive

 

When it’s hard to forgive someone in your present life, it’s generally because that present day person is triggering your unresolved feelings from childhood. If you let yourself think about or write about what you would like to say to the person in the present, often it’s the same thing you needed to say to someone in childhood who hurt you deeply.

 

For example, my friend was talking about a co-worker who is always disrespectful to her. When we explored her feelings further, she realized that that was exactly the same feeling she had with her mother as a child.

 

My friend had always wanted to be respected, valued and appreciated by her mother. I suggested that she write letters (that she doesn’t send) first to the co-worker and then to her mother, expressing her feelings, so that she can finally release them and let them go.

I know that forgiving the co-worker will become natural and easy when she has truly worked through her feelings from childhood. Of course, she’ll also need to set boundaries with her co-worker about what is acceptable or not acceptable professionally, but the boundaries will become much easier when she has taken the time to release the emotional pain that is triggered by this situation.

 

Forgiving Yourself

 

The real place to start with forgiveness is to forgive yourself. It’s extremely important to forgive yourself for not knowing what you wish you would have known, so that you could have made better choices and decisions throughout your life.

When you understand that you were really doing the best you could, given the lack of unconditional love, support, guidance and encouragement in your life, then you can stop blaming yourself for the unfortunate things that happened as a result.

 

It’s important to give yourself a chance to mourn the pain of not having received the unconditional love that you needed. When you had no guidance or role modeling for how to be healthy and happy, it’s pretty hard for a young person to figure all of that out on your own.

 

When you realize that, it become easier to let go of your past mistakes and understand why you made the choices you made. It also becomes clear that with what you know today, you can choose to change anything or everything in your life!

 

Forgiving Others

 

What follows naturally from truly forgiving yourself is realizing that the people who hurt you probably didn’t receive unconditional love and guidance in their lives either.

After I had forgiven and healed myself, it become clear to me that my father also had unresolved pain from his childhood. His mother had died when he was young and his father remarried a woman who was not kind or respectful to him.

 

Although I knew that my father’s past didn’t excuse the way he treated us, I also understood that he was acting out his own pain. Thich Nhat Hanh said, “When a person makes you suffer, it’s because he suffers deeply within himself and his suffering is spilling over.”

 

Forgiveness is NOT Resolution

 

When you forgive someone, it does NOT mean that you have to be best friends with them. You absolutely have the right to decide who you want to be close to in your life, based on that person’s level of personal responsibility or how you feel being around him or her.

True forgiveness does mean that you come to a place where you can wish that person well and genuinely hope that he or she has a good life. When you let go of getting even or trying to punish them for what they’ve done, you can turn the situation over to the Higher Power and let God be in charge of their consequences or the lessons they may need to learn.

 

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